I am wondering if posting this on my fb page is a good idea.
Hi, as most of you know i am currently pregnant with our second child. I am not going to have a baby shower this time around because the one we had for our first was such a disaster. If you WANT to get stuff for the baby, please feel free. We don’t know the sex for sure so i’m not saying anything about it. BUT please if you don’t feel like getting us anything, don’t be strangers, i would love to catch up with you nonetheless.
If you are wondering what you could get bub, then please know i already have all the big stuff. We only need nappies, soft toys and bottles but anything you get bub will be muchly appreciated. Please remember that YOU DON’T HAVE TO.
my question is do you think that’s wise?
Now, before anyone tells me i shouldn’t be organising this myself, i will say i have no sisters. I have really good friends but they are all busy with teenagers and new babies and the only other person who could organise it doesn’t know my friends that well as she is 10 years younger than me. So….

Posted anonymously, 20th August 2015

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  • I don’t see anything wrong with posting that. It’s straight to the point, not rude or demanding, and lets people know exactly what you need and what your expectations are. Not greedy or anything. I think post it if you feel it’s best. I never had a baby shower with any of my 3 kids so I don’t know what’s normal. I thought people usually had one with their first, then that was it, but I really have no idea. Every case is different, anyway. Seems reasonable to me! Best of luck with your new addition!


  • i hope that this situation worked out for you! enjoy the new bub!


  • I think that’s fine to post. Honest but polite.


  • Honestly, your FB page is yours!! Post what you like, what you feel, what you want to say!! I hope all is going well xx


  • Sad that you first experiebce wasn’t a good one .. Hope you follow your heart in your decision


  • Just remember It’s really up to you if you want to post it or not! Good luck!


  • do what you feel comfortable in doing


  • Sad to hear that your first baby shower was a disaster. Maybe try again with no 2? If not, maybe a morning or afternoon tea?

    • Yeah apart from the godparents and hubby n me, no one came :(

      • How disappointing for you, sorry to hear, such a shame. I hope it works out for you. :)


  • It is really up to you if you want to post it or not. With it being your second I am sure most people know you will have things already.


  • Its really up to you if you want to post it, but just know from my experience, most close friends and people that care will send you a card, flowers or buy bubs a gift,( those who can afford to) they do usually wait until after bubs is born. Although the excitement from others does tends to drop off after the first bubs, and does a little more for every child you have due to the family been established already also as you said you have most of the big things you need. Those who you are close to will stay in touch.


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