My husband is lovely and I couldn’t ask for a better partner in life and father to my two boys. However, I have had to explain to him that I don’t have the answers to all the questions.

He is 8 years older than me and has had very little experience with young children and babies before we had our first son just over 2 years ago. In comparison, I ran my own babysitting “business” in my street from the age of 12 and am now a primary school teacher – a fair bit of experience with kids now.

I appreciate that my husband is trying to do his best to be a great dad, and wanting to do the right thing by our boys and I above all else. This sometimes happens, though, through the asking of what seems like a thousand and one questions.

Most of the time I can answer, or help to him work out an answer. But recently I have had to get him to understand that I don’t have all the answers and am really just muddling my way through as much as he is. It is starting to cause me stress and anxiety as I have so much running through my head all the time…and then still need to find answers for him.

Being the lovely man that he is, he is beginning to understand how this is affecting me…and in turn our relationship. I am hoping that we can keep talking about this and work out the answers together :-)

Posted by elmo77, 1st September 2013

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  • I think most of us are just muddling our way through it.


  • We all get there in the end without knowing the answers up front.


  • i think the last comment is a great idea


  • Maybe see if there is someone willing to look after the kids for a few hours. Sit down with your partner and together come up with a rough plan for what you want for the kids for the next twelve months.
    Ask him what his fears and concerns are, and maybe you could let him know that you are fumbling your way as well. If you are both on the same page, it will be easier to bounce off each other. Parenting is a learning curve everyday, you are doing a great job mumma :-)


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