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My Boy 13 and half, is experiencing a lot of bodily changes and I do not know what to tell him when I notice this. What advise can you give to a boy child, who is going towards his manhood?


Posted by susan_dione_epiepang, 27th May 2014


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  • yes it is difficult but i will leave this to hubby. Maybe you could find some info on the net and use it to help him explain what is happening

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  • Each child is different so its hard to give advice without knowing them…no-body knows your child as well as you do but I think it is always wise to just let them know that you are there if they have any questions. Especially when the have those sorts of lessons at school.

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  • i have a nine year old and i already worry about this stuff myself. but i think for my son having trusted male friends and male based social groups in the community who will be able to answer some of the questions he may have is the best thing for them, there is just some stuff you shouldnt have to explain.. although it has been done before, and what a brave mother you are :) good luck

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  • Remember he may be feeling very confused and worried, I raised 3 boys on my own, and being open and honest and factual is the best way.

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  • Lots of good advice has been given. Just let him know you are there if he needs to ask questions, give him some good reading material and wash his sheets and PJ’S with out making a big fuss.

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  • Very interesting indeed, it is a wonderful initiative, this Mouths of mums.

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  • Making notes!! I am yet to go through this with my son…but really loves website such as mouths of mums so we can all bounce off each other. Very interesting read.

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  • My warm thanks to LadyDJ for that very educating document, he actually read through excitedly and asked my some few questions. I actually appreciate all of your efforts.

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  • Thank you all!! He told me they are being taught in school, quite releaving. But that not withstanding, I have started opening up some few aspects with them, since the sister too is coming up strongly.

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  • My sons ten and I have started to talk to him about the birds and the bee’s this year. I would rather he learn the truth from me than school yard gossip.

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  • Boys of that age can be difficult to approach about personal matters. I’d suggest printing off this booklet, and giving to him. Good luck.
    http://www.health.wa.gov.au/…/HP010368_boys_and_puberty_booklet.pdf


    • I’m going to look this up and see if there’s one for girls :-)
      Thank you

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  • This is the time to be honest and without saying anything that you have noticed changes you start to tell him about puberty. If you feel uncomfortable then you can go to the library and get a book for him to read. Not sure if you are married? So the other option is getting a male role model to talk with him.

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  • Is he open to talking to you? Or is there a male In his life who can tell him this stuff..?

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  • As others have said look online and always I think when you do speak to him your be shocked at how much he already knows as they do go through a lot about puberty at school.
    Good luck :)

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  • Thank you all. I can the feel a great relief since I brought up this topic, and you guys are helping me a great deal. I thank you for the link, and will print some information and give him to read. I have also been able to ask him if the tell them in school about the changes that he is undergoing right now, and he says yes. The father is not the open type, and does not seem to want to open up. I have told him if there is anything he doesn’t understand, he should ask me or the father.

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