I have not spoken to my brother for nearly two and half years now as he has serious issues that he used to like to take out on myself and my beautiful little family and after the birth of my third child he was at it again threatening us and my husband and I decided that it was enough having always forgiven him and moved on till his next outburst, we decided that our childrens safety came first.

He has just had a baby last week with a girl younger than him who appears to have worse issues than he does.

My mother keeps ringing me for advise etc as she is concerned that the baby is not getting cared for properly.

She has never got into the clucky, cleaning organising pre baby state and is still not a week after the baby has arrived.

I feel bad and would like to help but there has already been talk of her leaving and going back to her mother with the baby which would definitly mean that my brother work be back to his sycotic episods which I could not subject my children to again as he is very scary. Hence this is why I am staying away.

All I can think of though is if anything happens to the baby I will feel like I should have done something.

But I always have to put the safety of my family first and my eldest daughter who is his goddaughter has seen so much of his scary side that she is scared of him and worries all the time about it.

Am I doing the right thing?

Posted by Lov'n'Life, 30th July 2013

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  • I hope it all worker out ok and that your family is safe and well.


  • I hope you and your family are safe and well.


  • This is such a tough one, of course you need to look after your family but, then there’s the defenceless child of your brothers.


  • I can see from the date that this was last year. What decision do you finally decide to make.


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