if i married someone else

Your story made me dread the future. But tbh, i knew this could happen to anyone. You need a hobby Liz007.
Men often forget that it’s the little things that matter. We may know our partner/husband love us but it’s the little things they do that show us how they really feel. Have you tried talking to him and telling him you need the connection? Even if it’s just holding hands while watching tv?
My husband is not close to his mom either, he doesn’t call her often and she doesn’t call often either. Again I think it’s a male thing.
Maybe plan a holiday for yourself for a week/weekend? With your daughter if you like, it seems you are close to her. I know my mom tells me about all her frustrations and things that bug her. Maybe you can tell her what’s bugging you?
Anyway, i think you need a break hun. And don’t be so hard on yourself. You did a great job as a wife for 34 years and a mom.

First you complain about your kids, then you swing to complaining about hubby, I’m not sure which one is the focus. You sound very unhappy though and need something outside of the home. A hobby, sport or volunteering.

great story to read

i like reading these stories it s fun

nice story

Have you thought you might need to make a change? Get a hobby, create things, charity work and from there you will meet other like minded people, you need to get out and smell the roses so to speak as you can’t change how your hubby feels.

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  • • mom57522 replied
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  Exactly! Do something for yourself?

I’m so sorry that you’re unhappy with your life Elizabeth. It sounds as though you have done everything for everyone else your entire life and it’s time you did something for YOU. Now is the time for you to LIVE! Good luck – I hope your life ceases to be so ‘flat’ soon.

sorry do u have kids. shift work can be hard and you feel lonely have a chat with him

men change when you have kids

I know that feeling. I have been with my partner for only 7.5 years.
we have a 4 year old son.
he is unattached and doesnt cuddle and i was a cuddly person before i met him, now when ppl come in for a hug, i automatically flinch or freeze as im not use to it anymore..
I hope you can have a conversation with your husband and help sort it out so u can be happy again
xo

Thanks I play lawn bowls I have a lot of friends. I just feel I would love to curl up with my hubby .. But he says he does not feel that way anymore .. And even thorough he loves me. I feel him kissing me on the top of the head is not what I want .. I will be sitting and he is about to go to work he just walks up and kisses the top of my head bye as he walks out the door…I,m not a child I,m his long time wife of 34 years .. I still want what we had and he does not.. I miss us curling up together watch tv etc and I do not mean sex. Yes I miss that. But just laying in bed talking. Or watch a bite of tv .. It’s not lonely for people it’s lonely for love … He says he does but can not show it like he use to.. I,m having big trouble trying to get my head around that..

Maybe there are some local groups that you could join or some volunteer work you could do. My husband doesn’t have a great relationship with his parents but he doesn’t talk to them. You could let your son know how you feel because it is good to talk things out. Get it out in the open. With my husband I try to have ‘our time’ where we go do something together – you could start walking (beach, park or whatever is nearby). I hope you find some happiness soon.

I am so sorry to hear that you have committed everything to your family & now you are feeling so alone. I made my hubby read your story so he can understand how hard it can be to be home managing house & family & he promised me he will try to spend more time with the kids & I & always try to include me. I hope you can find a way to fin d your happiness xx