From the moment my daughter was born she was demanding. Even tho she was my second child I gave her all the attention in the world, my sweet little baby, but even from the day she was born she knew what she wanted. As she grew we noticed how much faster she was learning than our first child. She knew what she wanted and if she didn’t get it she could scream for hours. My family constantly remind me of a time we had to go out for dinner when she was about six months old. I had held her all night but needed two hands to cut my dinner but as soon as I out her down she screamed. She wouldn’t let anyone else hold her and continued to scream until I had quickly as possible scoffed my food and picked her up again. My family was so embarrassed. We never got asked to dinner again in a restaurant setting. My daughter is now five and more headstrong than ever. We have tantrums on nearly a daily basis that can last up to over an hour. Yesterday it was that my daughter didn’t want to wear her school dress for her school photos. It was a warm day and although she is allowed to wear pants and a school top they were dirty. Plus most of the girls wear the dress for photo day. Well she fought and cried and screamed for an hour, I had to dress her myself, twice, and do her hair twice as she waited for me to do it then pulled it out. She screamed all the way to school (we walk over a km every day to get there) but was fine once we got there and she saw all the girls in dresses. This happens most days usually about clothes, school brushing teeth whatever. But only when its something she has to do like getting ready to go somewhere.she wants her own way and if she doesn’t get it its a huge fight to make her do it. Clearly she has to go to school and she has to wear the uniform. I just don’t get why she’s like this, I treat all my children with the same amount of love and snuggles (lots) they eat well and I don’t buy soft drinks and coke, they go to bed early and get plenty of sleep. Most of all we are a very loving and supportive family, all together, dog, cat, rabbit the whole nine yards. I just don’t understand why just one of my babies is such a struggle?

Posted by miss smith, 1st November 2013

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  • You have a challenge ahead of you. Imagine what she will be like at puberty if you do not clamp down on her now. Tell her her brothers and sisters are every bit as important as her and that she has got to cut out being an attention seeker because it will not do her any favours in life in general. I would think she has not got a lot of mates at school if she behaves that way. Try and gently but firmly get her to see that she is acting like a spoiled brat in others eyes but you love her and want only the best for her and praise good behavior when she shows it.


  • Sounds like a special training is in order, they may need something else that will click in their mind to follow your instruction.


  • Sounds like she’s a head strong girl with her own ideas.


  • I think there’s a difference between being head strong and being naughty.


  • I have a 5yo boy whose so head strong and got aggressive instead of tantrums and a 7yo girl who just threw tantrums, however i got referred to do a triple p coarse, and there behaviours settled down. But good luck, and stay strong.


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