Everyone suffers from this guilt, some suffer more and some suffer less. My daughter is a busy, active nearly 3 yr old and some days I struggle to find things to do with her, balancing another 1yr old who is just as busy is hard too. So this week after a mini meltdown we decided to enrol her into daycare for another week, where she is well adjusted and has a great day. She is the kind of kid that needs that interaction. SO happy solution right? Wrong! Mother’s guilt is preventing me from feeling happy. I know that this is best for her but why do I feel like a bad mum for it? It gives me time for study, cleaning and bonding with my 1 year old, and it gives her what she needs. But I feel anxious, a bad mum and just like I’m not doing a job good. It’s hard to see parents who have lots of kids not using daycare or with friends who don’t need it, but what I’ve realised over this very hard self journey of mine is that every child is different, mine happens to be more social, active, alert and wants more. AND there is nothing wrong with that! Over time I will fully get that and let go of the guilt.
Posted by firstname.lastname@example.org, 14th March 2014