yes – I don’t drink and I am constantly having to refuse drinks when I go out with friends or go to their houses.

You could go to Gold Class at the cinema, that way they get to drink, you can all eat and watch a nice movie. They may not be up for it, but you can always try.

Oh yes! My partner cannot go out and enjoy himself unless drinking alcohol is involved. We usually need a designated driver or taxi fare afterwards. It’s so frustrating as I’ve won some lovely nights out and had to,pass because of hubby and his inability to not drink when out :/

It is sadly in our crazy culture that to have fun we must drink….. time to change

I’m not so close to friends who drink for that reason… I don’t enjoy the evening drinking scene. I have one good friend who is the same so we see movies together (including the kids ones 😛 cinderella last week was amazing!!! We don’t have daughter yet)

Not really. I just speak up, and we usually manage to agree on a venue everyone’s comfortable with.

Tell them you don’t like doing that, and you’d prefer to go to dinner, a movie and then afterwards you can go out for a coldie (even if you don’t have a drink) with them. That way everyone is happy!

Maybe if you organise the next outing you can choose the location for dinner and a movie and your friends might just like it!

My girlfriends and I usually do dinner or coffees.

I agree; dinner and a movie is much nicer as you can actually hear each other chat. It is a preference; some people change their preferences as they get older and some people continue to like pubs. Both are fine; just go with what you prefer.

yep and ive lost a lot of so called friends all because I don’t feel the need to have a drink but that’s their loss I still have my kids and if they want to drink to be social so be it. I too prefer a movie or going out for tea. Maybe suggest to your friends drink free night they may or may but you can I try. Enjoy

Although I don’t mind either it is much easier to chat and relax for a meal and coffee (or a meal and wine).

I don’t drink. I never was a big party person. The last time I had more than 1 drink was at my wedding in 2011 between now and then I’ve only had 1 drink, on a new years eve with my husband and I just didn’t enjoy it. I’m happy and comfortable with being someone that just doesn’t drink but other people I know all have drinks involved when they’re on nights out.