I have started to plan my daughters first birthday party and needed to write a guest list..trying to work out who has been involved enough in my daughters life enough to be invited and I realized that some of my friends have seen my daughter more than my husbands family and it made me so sad. My immediate family (mother and sisters) have been fantastic and see Chloe on a weekly basis but my husbands family have hardly seen her! My husband is such a good man and it makes me sad that his family don’t appreciate him enough! His own parents have only seen my daughter three times and she is nearly ten months old! Yet my hubby still wants to invite them and does not say one bad word about them. I guess that what makes me love him so much, he always sees the good in the people no matter what.

He has nephews and nieces that his parents see a few times a week, yet they make no effort to see our child and they only live ten minutes away from us! I have no idea how I am going to explain to my daughter when she grows up why her grandparents don’t want to see her. She is such a beautiful child and it breaks my heart. How can a grandparent not want to spend time with their grandchild?

Feeling sad and angry on behalf of my daughter :( :(

Posted by dbhall82, 8th October 2013

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  • All I can say is that it is their loss. You and your husband seems like such nice people. Stay that way and eventually they will come to realise their mistake.


  • I cannot understand this. I’m soon to fe a first time grandparent and am devastated test my don lives interstate so my visits will be limited. I cannot understand grandparents who live so close having minimal contact. I feel sad for you and your daughter :,(


  • i hope that the relationships is better now. it can be hard dealing with these family members that you don’t grow up with and don’t know extremely well!


  • I would still invite them and try and involve them in your life as much as possible. They are your husbands family so you don’t want to loss contact


  • nice to read stories on this great site


  • Still invite them, keep trying and hopefully a closer relationship may grow.


  • Thank you ladies for your lovely comments and you are right, I will invite them and show my daughter how to be the bigger person!


  • Don’t tear yourself apart over it, I have a similar situation. I can’t understand why the grandparents can do this to the grandchildren. I hope you can talk to your hubby about it, because anything said would be best coming from their own son. Your friends are very lucky to share in your daughters life, I have some wonderful friends who share in my children’s life who are considered as family to me.


  • I don’t understand either however, I do think it’s important to invite them as they are family & my mum bought me up with the good old saying two wrongs don’t make a right. It’s not always easy :)


  • Its a hard situation, I am lucky to have In laws that live near by and want to see our bub as much as possible, but the thing that comes to my mind in your circumstances are, they say you lose a son but gain a son in law, a daughter is always close with her parents then a son. But i think it would still be the “right” thing to invite them!


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