Since having a daughter I’ve realized how much I have to change how I think about myself. I knew that having a child would change how I felt about my body but I never thought it would be like this.

The other day my daughter reached to grab my feet, which I’ve always hated because they’re big and because I run and have a tendency to walk around barefoot they’re dirty, tough with callouses and generally unattractive in my eyes. I immediately said ‘No don’t, they’re dirty and gross’, she looked at my feet then looked down at her own and I could see she was trying to process what I had said.

That is when I realised I had to change my attitude. I want to raise a daughter who is proud and confident no matter how her body turns out, and the best way to ensure that is to provide her with a good example. I have to stop putting down my features that I don’t like in myself otherwise she’ll begin looking for flaws in herself.

Since that day I’ve started consciously thinking about what I say to her because I know that at 2 she is trying to put everything, including herself, into place in the world and I need to make it my goal to ensure she goes to the right place. Now when she looks at different parts of my body I explain them to her instead of brushing it off. It’s amazing how just changing what I say out loud to her changes how I feel inside about myself.

Speaking in a more affirmative manner about myself puts me in a positive frame of mind and makes me want to achieve more. Since then I’ve started running, ok slowly jogging, again and I’m going to join a yoga class. I’ve also started eating more salad and less dessert, only slightly less but still. All of this is because I want to be the best person I can be for this tiny human who looks up to me as the knowledge of her universe and it’s changing all of our lives.

Posted by sarahsampsonite, 29th October 2015

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  • yes! kids see everything! if you hate your body or put yourself down, the kids wonder what is wrong with them. do keep positive!


  • What a great lesson to gave learnt. So many women need to learn this. All too often we pass our own body insecurities onto our daughters, often without even realising it.


  • What a positive story. Its a good reminder to all of us. Have you considered a mother/daughter yoga class?


  • Also, working towards being the best version of yourself is a wonderful goal.


  • Thanks for sharing your story and good on you for being a positive role model for your daughter. It is the best gift you can give a child.


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