i am going to guess that these two have been keeping a huge secret from you….. they have been reading!!! now i see a ton of articles all over the place about having babies and not letting people near them until they have built up an IMMUNITY! Voila! this could be your answer! it is a trend now to keep baby away from public places and to really restrict the amount of people that come into contact with baby. Whooping cough etc is on the rise and many new parents are freaking out. i advise you to get your whooping cough immunisation if you will be around the baby anyway. Don’t take offense! talk to them and tell them what you would like to do and ultimately respect their final decision. Don’t worry, there will be plenty of time to shower the little one in kisses!

Wow how very sad. I have no words to help . But adopt a grand child. I would advertise . I rally would ..put in the add what you want..okay .make it clear not a free baby sitter.. But really I live in Campbelltown so does my son and his first child. It is a designer baby . So nothing I would buy would be good enough we are the poorer side .. It’s all good I have three other beautiful grand children.. I have seen his little boy once ..,a rather nice baby ..,but I am now not close to him because I was not allowed to bond .. I do not miss him..
As I have my other three beautiful grand children. So me I would adopt

It is incredibly hard to have a new baby and have relatives staying and “helping”. Maybe they’re just trying to give themselves some space for a few months.

dont withdraw from loving your grand child and wanting to support you family, It just sounds to me that they want to set their own routines in their own time before they have any house guests.. Do you have any other family in the area they live that you could also visit to be able to extend your stay a little?.
Its normal for grandparents to want to help where they can, I am sure they are going to love the hamper of goodies you are going to give them. But mums are so independent and feel the need to do it all and dads are so much more hands on than they have ever been in the past.
But with things like skype etc you will be able to organize some family time every week, if you ask they could also email you regular photos and updates etc. it would be hard living so far away. But how cool is to be able to have the family come and stay with you as the kid and future kids grow up for holidays. Let them know they will always be welcome when the kid is older and they are happy to travel. .
This is just a idea but is there a way you could also visit them for a few days a month or two before bubs is due put the offer out there so you can spend some quality time getting to know your daughter inlaw a bit better before bubs comes along??. .
If you think you have depression and it is here to stay please ask you doctor for some help or a refferal to talk to someone. you will be amazed how much it can help you deal with the situation, emotions a help you cope better. Goodluck….

It’s literally breaking my heart :,( I’m feeling so completely unnecessary at the moment. Can’t stop the tears :,( Need coping techniques or something