I was told at 18 that I would NEVER fall pregnant. I had contracted an STD from my boyfriend, it was called PID (Pelvic Inflammatory Disease), I never had a clue he was sleeping around. I only found out because I began bleeding out of the blue one day, and bled constantly for 2 weeks with awful tummy cramps. I saw a Gynaecologist and was told my fallopian tubes were ruined and were incapable of holding an egg….I was devastated, because even at 18, I knew I wanted children in the future.

Then when I was 25 I had just finished being intimate and I knew, I knew then and there that I was pregnant. I kept it to myself until I went to the Doctors a month or so later. I was pregnant. I also knew that it was going to be a little girl and I called her Laura from the beginning.

My morning sickness was excruciating and was a constant, all day, it affected my commuting to work and drained me of every ounce of energy. I was ecstatic when that came to an end. But then at about 4 months I also began getting severe headaches and at every check-up, my blood pressure would increase. By 30 weeks I was going to the hospital twice a week for blood tests, by 34 weeks they admitted me to hospital for complete bed rest because my blood pressure was not decreasing and my headaches were an everyday occurrence, I had what is know as Pre-Eclampsia, my hands, legs and feet were huge from fluid retention. And I had dizziness due to the blood pressure. After 15 days in hospital they decided to induce labour. They came in and applied the ‘stuff’ and told me I would feel something within an hour or so. Nothing happened. They re-applied the ‘stuff’ and I decided to have a shower. While showering I felt the sensation of my entire insides falling to my pelvic floor, I knew the baby had dropped, I finished my shower and hopped back in bed. I told the Nurse and she said “no, no….the baby hasn’t dropped yet”. (are you kidding ….I just felt it). And then 30 mins later my plug came out….so it was official. I was in labour! My labour started at 10pm, I could feel what felt like period pains, except a little worse. By 12pm I was having the worse contractions, I called the Nurse and asked for some painkillers or an epidural, I was in so much pain. She left and came back with 2 Panadol…….suffice to say, I didn’t bother taking them. They would’ve been useless. My partner was there with me but was of little use, he was too busy watching the Goddam cricket on TV! From 12pm -5am my contractions were constant and killing….finally at around 5am they wheeled me around to delivery. I had to push, I couldn’t stop it, it’s an automatic response…so I pushed. I pushed and pushed for hours. I could hear everyone getting concerned and screaming out my blood pressure and how it was getting dangerously high and they’d contemplate a caesarean if I she didn’t come out soon. I was pushing and she was not coming out. They figured out her shoulder was stuck on my pelvis or something and she couldn’t come out. They had to call for a specialist who…Guess What???…..was not in! They called him at his home and he took his time. He finally made it at 9.20am, by this time I had kind of left my body (this is how I describe it, I was not there, I wasn’t making any noise, I was numb and sort of watching everything from a different perspective). He had to suction my daughter out after giving me an episiotomy and finally at 9.48am Laura came into this World. The Nurses cut the cord, they wrapped her up and took her away. I did not even get to see her…..this still makes me angry to this day! I was left on the bed, being stitched while clots were rolling out. I was made to shower and an hour later when they took me back to my room was the first time I got to lay my eyes on her. She was an Angel, absolutely perfect. All the problems I’d had with the pregnancy disappeared from memory as I held her in my arms. It was worth everything!

Posted by nita, 8th May 2013

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  • Great story. The nurses could have given you a quick peek at your daughter as soon as she was born even if it was just a fleeting glimpse! They may have been more concerned about your condition after the birth I suspect.


  • What an awful time you had, isn’t it funny how that all disappears once we hold our little bubs in our arms.


  • What a traumatic birth! It’s amazing how all the problems seem to be forgotten however when you hold your miracle baby in your arms. Great story, thanks for sharing.


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