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I am a older mum I had my first daughter at the age of 34 and the second at 36 and also had 2 miscarriages after my 2 daughter. When I actually went to the hospital due to the miscarriage a nurse actually said to me aren’t you a bit old to be having a baby I was 37 at the time. I was so distraught over this I thought here I am just had a miscarriage and your saying to me your too old for this get over it, she actually me cry. I know its a little old to have a child but I did not marry until I was 32. I am not sorry I had my children when I was older.


Posted by Umbrellas27, 24th May 2013


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  • so many Mums are having their children in their late 30’s or early 40’s nowadays. Couples are marrying later and having a family later. Most nurses are brilliant, but just like the general population there are some insensitive ones.

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  • I was 37 when I had our first child, some people should mind their own bees wax and stop being so judgemental, what rude nurse.

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  • My mum was 40 when she had my sister! Not old at all.

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  • No it isn’t too old, I was 37 when I had our daughter, some people like that nurse are so thick and out of touch, a lot of women are having children later on in life.

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  • Dont let others feel make you feel this way. What a horrible thing for her to say, and I am sorry for your loss. I am 33 and would consider having another child. I have 3 children already though and know hubby is happy to keep our family where it is. Be true to yourself. Your doing a great job.

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  • Many thanks to all who read my story I appreciate all the thoughts so thank you very much. I sit and think about this sometimes and it still upsets me to this day. But actually talking about it has made me feel so much better. I know it happened a while ago but have never really spoke about it until now so thanks everyone. Now onto something else I would like to say that its so good to have a website like this one so people can express themselves I love this website so to everyone I hope you have a great day and thank you

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  • I am absolutely horrified about the comments made by that nurse. To think that still happens in this day and age! I was of the opinion that being your age and having a baby was actually the norm age range anyway these days. You are not an old mum!! I’m 31 and I don’t think I will be blessed again with having another child but I’m sure if I did I would feel as distraught as you did after miscarrying and then having to suffer those comments. I’m sure you were terribly upset and making a complaint against that woman would have been the last thing on your mind, but had you of done that woman would have deserved whatever ever disiplinary ramifications she got. What a terribly opinionated person and nurse. I thought one of the usual givens with that occupation is you can normally expect compassion and understanding. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  • Hi I cant believe she said that to you, what a absolute cow and how inconsiderate for christ sake you just had a miscarriage where is her compassion she obviously is a sad women. I wouldnt feel bad about being a old mum I had just turned 35 when my first was born and just before my 37 I had my 2nd. I always deeamt of 3 but dont think that dream will come true but I have thought of maybe gicing it a couple years and try again if could haven it by 40 that be great. I had to have ceasereans as my first come at 25 weeks so its bit scary thinking 3 ceasereans especially at my age. It seem being older mum is the fashion these days :)

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  • Never to old

    This is for the older mum. I had my last child at the age of 36 and never thought of being too old in fact I think its a perfect age to have children as we are more mature and ready for the challenges ahead, I find I am a lot more patient. How dare that nurse make such a cruel comment to you regarding your age especially after what you had experienced. The nurse obviously is not fit to be in such a caring role. You are never to old to have kids its entirely up to the individual, and no-one has the right to judge the age of becoming a MUM, Good luck with your family all the best

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