I had a fairly normal pregnancy. Apart from some normal discomfort, and a cough that never went away, everything went to plan. I had an OB who was very patient and helpful and every step of the way bub was healthy and doing the right thing. At 25 weeks she was head down and I thought to myself “Good, as long as she stays that way I won’t need a c-section”. But bub didn’t want to follow my rules. At 36 weeks my OB said that she should have engaged by now, and that I have a 20% chance of having a natural birth. I was very surprised, and assumed I would just be induced, but he said it would most likely end in an emergency c-section. I desperately wanted to give birth naturally, and hoped against all the odds she would drop and I would go into labour. But she didn’t. At my next couple of appointments is was clear she wasn’t going anywhere, and to make things more complicated my OB went on holidays in the last two weeks of my pregnancy. The locum dr was concerned about the risk of cord prolapse, something my OB had never mentioned, and so I had to make a decision to ignore the advice of the dr (who wanted to book me in for a c-section straightaway), and wait until my dr returned. I was at the hospital 4 times before my OB returned, being monitored due to high blood pressure. But in the end, my OB retuned, and when I saw him at 40+4 he decided to book me in for a c-section the next day. By that stage I felt I had given her a chance to come out by herself, and was also more comfortable having my dr perform the c-section.
It wasn’t an easy process, and I still wish I was able to give birth naturally, but I have come to the conclusion that the important thing is that she arrived safe and healthy, I think sometimes we get too caught up on having a baby “naturally” that we lose sight of the most important thing – the health of our babies – and that you aren’t any less of a mother for having a c-secion. I hope this will encourage those who are facing c-sections or are coming to terms with the fact they missed out on a natural birth.
Posted by moocowmel, 10th April 2013