Genetically, I have 5 brothers and a sister. 3 brothers have a different mother (my dads first wife died), 1 brother has the same mother (mum had an affair that resulted in Andrew, before she met dad) and 1 brother and my sister I share the same parentage. We immigrated from England in 1967. The 2 eldest brothers stayed in England, Andrew was abandoned and I didn’t learn about him until I was 16. And only because I was looking where I shouldn’t have been. Anyway, that’s another story. This one is about the youngest of dads 3 boys with his first wife. He was around 4-5 when his mum died and when my mum and dad married. He’s become a psychologist and analysed the whole family situation growing up. My opinion, our childhood wasn’t ideal, dad was very controlling with a vile temper due to PTSD from being in the army (he fought in the Malayan war) I know it wasn’t the best, I can see flaws, but it wasn’t thepat bad. At worst, we were all detached, emotionally. But thus brother is blaming my mum. What he explains he experienced is nothing to how I remember things. He’s older, maybe he remembers it better. I am so confused. How could things be as he described, even a little bit, and he not see it?
Posted by mom81879, 21st November 2015