I have been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. It has had many ups and downs but ever since I was diagnosed with vulvadinia ( sensitivity of the nerves in the vaginal wall so makes it painful) then we had a baby and pnd our relationship has taken a beating. All we do is fight I resent him for his lack of help and compassion. All he does is complain about everything. When is enough enough?…..thanks my vent is now over!!!!!!

Posted anonymously, 23rd June 2015

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  • Are you able to get satisfactory treatment for your medical problem?
    If are constantly feeling ill because of it and you feel you are being pressured maybe you need to have a good discussion with him about that. Maybe he thinks you don’t love him any more, and you feel the same way about him.
    As hard as it is you need to have some good calm discussions to see if you can reach a satisfactory solution. If not, maybe it is time to move on as one of the others suggested. Your baby is probably picking up on the stressful atmosphere too. I wish you well in your endeavour and hope you come to a mutual decision whatever it may be.


  • If your asking the question when is it enough, it’s now! You don’t need to stay with someone that your not happy with, whats the rest of your long life going to be like? If you want to be happy and loved don’t stay with someone that dose not care.


  • i feel for you, I have 8 years under the belt and still we are at loggerheads about most things, somehow its how we thrive at times. good luck


  • When we had our son, our relationship was strained for quite some time, it was mainly due to us being tired, stressed and more quickly to get angry and defensive. We were less intimate and I felt we were drifting apart. So I decided we had to change. Firstly we sat down and talked about each other felt, I told my partner I felt very stressed and tired and I just want help sometimes which would make me feel less stressed. My hubby told me he felt like I did not love him anymore which made him not want to help. So he started helping more and I made a date night jar. Once a fortnight we get our kids looked after overnight and choose a date, the other fortnight we have a stay at home date night after putting the kids to bed. We feel more connected, more in love and the time to ourselves has helped our marriage and we became more intimate again. Please give it a try, I am sure you are both just stressed.


  • Only you can answer that question but maybe worth some counselling etc to get back on track and help you reconnect


  • i had never heard of that condition before. poor you. maybe you two need counselling or a holiday. Re-connect on a romantic level again


  • I’m sorry things are so tough and your not getting any support and understanding.
    Only you can deccide when enough is enough. Hugs


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