Yes I have 4 kids and I am proud of it!
Why do people feel they need to comment about how many children we choose to have.
Yes I wanted to have 4 kids.
Yes I know what causes them.
Yes I own a TV.
No I am not super mum and I am not super organized. I am just like any mum I have days when I struggle and days when my kids drive me crazy. But I am so grateful everyday that I was lucky enough to be able to carry 4 beautiful children without any major medical issues.
When I go to the shops with all my kids please don’t stare or feel the need to comment about us. I know many families that are large and we are all the same. We all love our children as much as those who choose to have one or two kids.
Having a bigger family is chaotic and exciting all at the same time and I wouldn’t change it for the world

Posted anonymously, 5th January 2016

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  • Sounds like a wonderful crazy family! I am expecting number 2 and would love many more but just need to get over a couple of obstacles… namely age and hubby! People are always going to judge no matter the situation so just keep on doing what you’re doing because I am sure you doing a marvellous job!


  • I think it is great that you have 4 children who are loved! They will be learning how to care for each other and other people – I am sure they will turn out to be fantastic adults!


  • I have had 5 children and I used to get comments like are they all from the one father and when I say yes they used to say wow that’s rare normally from different fathers and I now have a step daughter, but the other thing I got quizzed was on there ages because I had two children in 1994 one January and one December then one October 1995 one 1998 and 1999 and then my three miscarriages but I look at it this way you love your children and at the end of the day no matter how many children you have as long as they are looked after and loved it doesn’t matter…. I wish you and your family well and hugs to you xxoo


  • I have a friend who has 8 living children and one in heaven and who knows maybe she will have more ..they are a truly beautiful and loving family.
    Before I had my children some folk asked when are you going to start a family? When I had my first they asked when are you going to have a play mate for junior? Seriously some folk are not worth thinking about, just go through life the way you see fit and enjoy it your way with 4 children or 14.


  • I am from a family of four so not sure what the fuss is about . The largest I think we had in the family was 6 kids just like the brady bunch , 3 boys and 3 girls which we used to joke about .

    • lol yeah four really is a common number :) i thought the old days , it was common for 12 children and stuff so lol! 4 is nothing hey!


  • Four isn’t that big a family; it’d never occur to me to moment on it, even mentally.

    • Sorry, curse autocorrect! I meant to say “comment on it”.


  • I think families of 4 are becoming more mainstream these days. My sister and a number of friends of mine are 4 kid families. I suspect comments may come from an older generation who likely financially struggled with kids and are in wonderment of your family or a younger generation who can’t fathom the work required to raise 4 kids. Either way, all the best for you and your family!


  • It is unfortunate that you feel this way. It is also unfortunate that no matter how many children a person has, others feel the need to judge them. I was criticised heavily when I had none, and once I had one. Our choices and circumstances are not other people’s business. Stay strong and be true to yourself.

    • Sadly, some people choose too be negative and say unkind words! Stay positive and true to yourself and ignore these people. These interactions do not bring positive energy into your life.


  • Ignore the comments as they really do not matter. The only thing that matters is that you are happy with your family unit. It is bad manners to comment and not worthy of your attention. Enjoy your family. :)


  • I just have 1 child but I would have loved to have a big family. Be proud of what you achieved. I think it’s amazing!! :-)


  • yep i hear you! be happy with what you have! they are your family, not a number! good on you :)


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