I have 3 step sons, and 1 beautiful 21 month old son. I’m over people who see me out with my “brood” and feel its their duty to tell me how sorry they are that I don’t have a daughter, of people who ask if we’ll have any more children – then tell me they hope we we’re “blessed” with a girl. Is a family of all boys some how inferior to a family with a girl?! I feel like the luckiest mumma/step mumma in the world to have these happy, cheeky beautiful boys in my life, regardless of their gender. After trying for 5 years to have our son, before falling back on IVF, it hurts to hear that to some people he’s not not “perfect”. He certainly is to us.

Posted by tobysmummy, 28th May 2013

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  • Everyone asks how I will feel if I only end up with boys.
    Its so terrible, as long as they are healthy, WHO CARES!?


  • A healthy child is important; not the gender!


  • Could agree more with what’s already been said in the previous comments.


  • This is so common….and annoying. Upon the birth of my beautiful second daughter, I actually had visitors to the hospital say, “Oh bad luck, did you want a boy?” Others who had the so called pigeon pair felt sorry for us and thought our family wasn’t complete without a boy. We couldn’t be happier and didn’t want one sex over the other, we just wanted children to love. Some people are so short-sighted!


  • Having a boy or a girl makes no difference. If life provide us with a boy or a girl, we all should be happy. Don’t listen to negative comments from others.


  • I understand how you feel, I have to beautiful little girls who are my whole world and If I had a million dollars for every time I am ask if going to try again coz wouldn’t I love a boy I would be rich :) it makes you wonder why people that dont even know you are so concern on why you dont have a child of both sexes. Im sure as mums we know how much we love our children if they are boys, girls or both. People just dont seem to care some women cant have anymore, dont want anymore, have infertility issues, been through heartache with miscarriages, cant afford or handle ivf again and the list goes on


  • How amusing – I often have the opposite problem. I have a beautiful baby girl and she means the world to us, but for many reasons, we are stopping at one. The number of people who keep asking if I’m going to “try for a boy” – I’m wondering if somehow having a girl is inferior? It certainly doesn’t feel that way.

    I remember growing up that all I wanted was to be an only child. I wanted to be able to take dance lessons and music lessons and art lessons, but I had two brothers who had to also have their needs taken in to account (think football, soccer and other associated sport). I could do the school musical only if the practices coincided with a sport practice for my brothers so I felt like I got left out a lot.

    On having children, I decided that I would see whether having one would allow me to spoil and provide my child with everything I feel I missed out on. Now – I’m not lacking in skills at all and I think my parents did an amazing job raising three children, I just know that I want things to be different with the new generation. So – I feel your pain!


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