This is fantastic advice. Thinking about all the things that will happen after the fact

Sometimes you make it clear to people that you are not happy but no one really listens and when you finally decide to make a move everyone is shocked.

An interesting article to read.

What an interesting read, a great thought pattern to decide for anyone.

No I can’t really relate to this, but good tips for those who consider to divorce / are unhappy in their marriage.

Interesting read!

I think you really need to work out the underlying reason you are unhappy and if that can be fixed before anything else. As sometimes it can’t be fixed and the other questions aren’t a choice.

I think communication is key to relationships, we need to be open and honest with each other about the things that upset us to work through them. This is such a great article when considering splitting

Excellent article to read when considering your future. Thanks for posting it.

It’s definitely a big decision.
Often I find myself biting my tongue when something annoys it upsets me because I’m too exhausted to fight and get even more angry.
I also think that it would be upsetting for kids to experience the divorce of their parents if they love them both. Different story if one was abusive, especially physically but if you’ve put up a front for ages where everything seems find and then suddenly it’s not, it would definitely impact them in a different way.

Some times of think about and then I think why how I would be but then deep down I do love him sometimes I wish he would be a bit more helpful and a bit less selfish and did a bit more with kids

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  • • Frankiielot replied
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  This is exactly how I feel!

Excellent points . Thank you for sharing

Excellent points to consider, i wouldn’t say yes to many of them

It’s some good points to Assist in working out your feelings and what you want.

Good article – the best point it makes is sitting down and thinking- unless you nut things out in your own head and decide what you really want, you have no chance of talking it through with your partner – which is definitely what is needed regardless of the outcome.

I threw my wedding ring out of the car window, and listened to it tink tink tink on the asphalt before I took off!

Why is there so much lack of communication in marriages?? Lose you phones, computers and TVs and make time to talk and be together. If there is children that decisions are affected because they don’t agree on what the kids are allowed to do, or where they are allowed to go—–don’t let the kids play you off against each other. One trick some play is they ask one parent a question, then later they ask the other one. The last person is told.”…..told me I could”. I have witnessed this in a few families. Then the parents start arguing over it. Sometimes the kids think it is funny.

could be a good exercise to do if things are not going so well.

That is a pretty good exercise to do if you are unhappy with your marriage. Really sit down and think through everything. Even if you end up thinking no I don’t want a divorce after that exercise, I still think the couple should be talking about all the issues they may have. Just not wanting a divorce doesn’t really fix the problem why you may be unhappy. Communication is vital.

There are a lot of factors that keep people in unhappy marriages – sometimes it’s children, sometimes finances, sometimes religious or cultural beliefs, sometimes it’s a pros and cons list with the pros winning out. It’s a very personal decision, and what keeps one person in a marriage may not necessarily be reasons that would keep another person in a marriage.