Mum Slams School Holiday Haters: 'Why Bother Having Kids?' - Mouths of Mums

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A mum has sparked heated debate after questioning why some parents seem to dread spending the school holidays with their children.

Taking to an online parenting forum, the single mum shared her confusion over mums openly complaining about having their kids home for two weeks.

“A lot of my mum friends are constantly saying things like, ‘counting down the days till their back in school’, and before the holidays, ‘I’m dreading this two weeks’, ‘what am I going to do with them?!’, ‘why are the holidays so bloody long’ etc etc,” she wrote.

She explained that she does understand that working parents (including herself) have added pressure over the school holidays. But many of the comments she hears are coming from financially secure stay at home mums.

“Many of the parents I’ve heard saying this are SAHMs with plenty of money. Some of them have even said stuff in front of their kids or to them, like ‘god what am I gonna do with you for two weeks?’. I feel sorry for their kids, it’s like they don’t like spending time with them or even like them.

“Makes me think why’d you bother having kids if you don’t like spending time with them??

“School holidays are difficult for me cos I have to shuffle my working hours about and pay for a few holiday clubs, but I love spending time with them. I’m a single parent too and I don’t have a lot of money and yeah it’s a lot sometimes, but I love going on walks with them, taking them to the park or making something at home.”

She added that childhood passes so quickly, and parents should make the most of the precious few years they have with their little ones.

“I genuinely enjoy their company and realise these years while their young and actually enjoy spending time with me are going to be gone in a nano second and I’ll never get them back, so I make sure I appreciate these years and make the most of them. Am I being unreasonable to not understand the mindset of dreading having your kids at home for the holidays (barring financial or work reasons)?”

What do you think – does this mum have a point? Let us know in the comments below.

  • I absolutely love the school holidays. Always have spending that precious time with my daughter is really what counts. I have always cringed when fellow parents would complain about our school holidays coming up with celebrate the end of school holidays so they could get rid of the children and send them back to school.

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  • i love the holidays and the slower pace of life. Whether it is holidays or not I always love the kids around (including the older ones). We have always been keen on family outings during the holidays or during the weekends. We’re already planning a nice family outing on Anzac day just after the Easter holidays. We’re building memories and get to sow into our kids lives; that’s the best investment we can make besides loving on them

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  • Unless you walk in another persons shoes it is impossible to know what is going on with their family and in their home. Every family and household has a different dynamic and different needs. There is no point in casting judgement about how others approach holidays and indeed how anyone else feels about holidays. It is best to keep the focus on your own family.

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  • I have always loved the school holidays and the slower pace of the days and weeks and the wonderful opportunity to unwind and have more time to do things together as a family; however; everyone is different and that is ok. Everybody has an opinion and their own feelings and there is freedom to look at the holidays however one wants too without judgment.

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  • I used to love the school holidays when my daughter was younger. I would often book interesting workshops at our local library, take her to events being held during the holidays, visit the art gallery and museum, or just find new and interesting places to visit. Spending time together just doing fun things was great for both of us.

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  • Growing up my mum would say how much she loved when we had school holidays, and that always made me feel good to hear. I really hope that the kids of the parents saying they are counting down for them to return to school don’t hear the comments, that could be hurtfy

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  • I definitely agree with this mum! I actually do enjoy spending time with my kids and look forward to the excuse to go out with them instead of doing chores. I only get Fridays off, so can only do long weekends with them, but the Fridays are precious. They can be a little tedious to each other having to spend all that time together, but a little bickering isn’t so bad.

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  • I have a love hate relationship with school holidays. I love spending time with our children, the low pressure days of not having to do anything or be anywhere by a specific time. We can sleep in or stay up late and it’s all okay. I can take them to parks and playgrounds and do fun activities we can’t during school term. What I hate is juggling work and trying to feel like I’m still on top of everything AND giving them the extra attention + doing special stuff (and not letting them binge watch screens). It feels like a lot to juggle.

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  • For me every school holiday’s has been different. There have been times where i have planned things for each day and they haven’t fallen apart, to times where I have not planned anything and winged each day. Everyone’s kids have different needs and attention required, it is a bit hard to judge or comment on other people’s experiences as you never really know what they are going through or have to deal with.

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  • Personally I think I can’t make a statement about how other people experience the school holidays. In general I think we don’t know what exactly is going on for other people and what plays on their heart and what is on their plate; so I think we should not judge.
    I think the statement ” why’d you bother having kids if you don’t like spending time with them” is too much and not okay.

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