That’s awful her post was deleted, it’s important for parents to grieve and this is part of life. I think sharing those moments can go towards healing and so her post should have been allowed.

I so agree you, we have to be so upbeat these days we can’t admit to our family, friends or even ourselves that we had have a problem let alone anything like this poor woman went through. I had a still birth birth many years ago and from the doctor down everyone pretended my pregnancy didn’t happen. It was a no go zone, I couldn’t even talk about it when I came home. My nursery had also suddenly disappeared, I know that they all meant well but I needed to talk and probably still do.

Sometimes this world just doesn’t make sense…Pornography and nudity are fine … but periods, breastfeeding and the death of a child are taboo……Crazy crazy world

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So very wrong what they have done to this lady.

I find it very hard that so many people simply don’t want to mention my son’s death. I understand it makes them uncomfortable, but it hurts.

I feel for that woman. To have your post deleted during such a painful time could be quite upsetting too. She obviously needed to let it out.

My heartfelt love is being sent to this mom…along with a gentle hug.

I agree with you Rochelle. I cant work out facebook sometimes!

Thank you for sharing this with us. I am disgusted and appalled that a ‘support group’ administrator would delete comments that DO relate to the topic of supporting people trying to lose weight post-pregnancy – a time which also includes dealing with sick children and tragic circumstances such as this lady and her family endured. I think that the members of this site should leave this Facebook group, as they are not very supportive at all. Being upbeat is good, but showing compassion at a time of great sorrow demonstrates our humanity towards each other.
I commend your efforts to try and find her, and hope that she either reads your article or is contacted by someone who knows who she is.

That is very sad, I had a miscarriage between my lovely boys and I know that although it was for a reason I still feel sad about it and often think what if and that was about 38 years ago. I hope this mother got the love and help she needed.

I saw this happen and did wonder if the mum got support to help her though the very bad time she is facing. How it happened was just horrible and nasty

I think it is tragic that you were not helped to find this woman and offer your condolences. At a time when she needed support, she was shoved aside like unwanted rubbish. Thank god for people like yourself who do not feel that way. I hope that mother finds the support and love she needs from somewhere else.

wow that is unreal! people deleting all mention of this are heartless! good on you for caring about another human being in pain. the world needs more of your special type of kindness.

Thank you for posting this, I agree with your comments, it is so sad that the death of a child can be dismissed in such a cruel fashion. I had 5 stillbirths, back in the day when it was considered ‘bad’ to allow the grieving parents to at least see, let alone hold their precious child…instead they were told to go away and try again. It took me over 20 years before I could finally process the grief that I’d buried, and am now able to help other parents who’ve had a still birth.
The situation for parent now is slightly different, at least they’re allowed to have a private room where they can begin the grieving process, crying, holding their precious child, saying good bye. But society is still unsympathetic. Those who knew of the pregnancy suddenly become too busy elsewhere when news of the still birth reaches them. Yes, I understand they probably feel uncomfortable, and don’t know how best to respond when they see the parents, but saying something, even maybe the not quite right thing, is better than the silly charade of trying to make it appear as a case of mild indigestion!
Many a time parents can’t bear the burden of grief and they separate, sadly, never really processing their grief, never coming to terms with the false guilt that is often part of a still birth. Was it something the mother did/didn’t do? Does it ‘run’ in either family?
I too am praying for that mother whose grief was dismissed so callously. Life is what it is, and it isn’t always ‘upbeat’, whatever that means.

I know exactly what your saying. Many years ago I gave birth to a baby girl who did live long. Now from my doctor to the last member of my extended family everything had to be positive. The doctor kept me in hospital until after my daughter was buried, when I returned home the nursery was no longer there and all baby clothes had been packed away. My pregnancy had never taken place.No one spoke about it, I had hoped things had changed obviously not!

The name of the group says it all \”weight loss SUPPORT\” if the group is meant to be upbeat and supportive then instead of deleting the posts the admadministratorrs should have offered upbeat supportive words in this womans time of grief. I lost a son 2yrs ago and this behaviour disgusts me a simple offer to help her get back on track with her weight loss goals when she is ready couldve kept the post on topic while also making the mom feel like she is not alone and who knows it couldve helped. I know I threw myself straight into planning the most beautiful and memorable funeral I possibly could just to keep myself busy. My hearr goes out to the family feeling this tragic loss.

l know what these womens are going through and their minds as the questions but no answer but l still think of time why is baby taken from me but everything is a reason all l can say is do the best in your life l had more children and l am bless but its doesnot replace of the first baby and l pray everyday life get better each day.

We are so lucky to have Mouths of Mums were sharing others grief is actually helping people heal.

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  • • rachkap replied
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  I totally agree with you here! Thank you MoMs