Tess Holliday is a Plus Size Model & Body Positivity Ambassador. She is also a working mum of two trying to deal with the daily struggles.

Tess started the body positive movement #effyourbeautystandards in 2013, and continues to empower people from all walks of life to embrace the body they are in right now.

She welcomed her second son in June 2016. Throughout her pregnancy, Tess became an even more vocal body advocate, sharing plenty of candid photos of her growing baby bump as well as nude photos to celebrate her changing body.

The plus-size model would often take to Instagram to hit back at critics who insisted that her baby’s life was in danger because of her size.

Tess has shared a raw post on social media to highlight what mums deal with everyday. It never gets easier.

Tess wrote, “This is the reality of being a mom.

I’ve been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up.

He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it.

Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it’s the best thing in the world, but not today.

I’ve been crying for nearly two hours, & I’m crying as I write this. I’ve reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn’t until this morning I realized why.

The pressure of “looking good” for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it?

How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren’t letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled?

Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I’m the first one to say that beauty isn’t what should drive you, it’s certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that’s as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn’t let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many.

I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome”

We feel you Tess, 100%.

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  • yeah there are challenges to being a mother, no matter who you are


  • Those days when I’ve spent the 9th day in a row just me and a toddler who doesn’t have naps anymore and he’s 3 so he pushes boundaries just to see where they are and my husband gets home and I just burst into tears and he’s trying to make me feel better and I’m just trying to have a shower so I can be by myself for 10 (ok 30) minutes and I scream in his face that “I just need a break ok” even though he hasn’t done anything wrong.


  • Totally Tess ! I’m up since 2am :)


  • I love it when mums have the courage to share all of the facets of motherhood.


  • I was told it’s the joys of motherhood….not impressed. If your baby is in pain they often wake easily. I have walked the floor and as soon as I stopped she woke up and started crying again. I felt as though I was sleep walking part of the time


  • I’ve been up since 3 myself today


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