A new mother has been left furious after her mother-in-law tried to change her baby’s name at the last minute.

The mum was so annoyed about it that she turned to the forum Mumsnet to ask other people if her rage was justified.

“We decided on his name before he was born and I decided a middle name that meant something to me so of course my OH could also pick one if her wanted,” the mum started.

“He didn’t come up with anything.”

However that soon changed when her other half’s mother decided she would like to have an input in the baby’s name.

“In the car on the way to register the baby, his mum is on the phone to him, he’s being very quiet so I guess it’s something he doesn’t want me to know about.

“Next thing I know when we’ve got out the car I’ve got texts on my phone from her saying naming the baby is a big thing and please don’t rush into anything, also please let my OH have an input as it’s important.”

“This name has literally never been mentioned by either of us before and I still have no idea where it came from or why the hell they as a family are sitting there discussing what my baby’s name should be when he is already here and had that name for six days.

“Now he has ended up with Christopher as a random bloody middle name, which would’ve been fine if it was my [partner’s] choice but I know it’s not – it’s hers!”

The original post appears to have since been deleted.

Has your MIL ever done anything as infuriating as this?

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  • yeah it is not always easy getting along with extended family but you can make an effort and compromise and pick your battles. i can see why this would be annoying though


  • Surely he should be loyal to you, not just his Mother. Is Christopher a family name?? If as you say he had every opportunity to choose a name and you discuss it he should have given some input before that time


  • Some ML are worse than this but yes i can appreciate your anger towards her in this situation.


  • This is tame compared by my mother-in-law.


  • She should change it back,it was without her knowledge!


  • Woah, that is some case of the mother-in-law-syndrome !
    I can imagine this is very upsetting indeed !
    I had some struggles with my mother-in-law, but not so severe. However my sister could tell some infuriating stories as well.


  • I’d insist on changing the name back. You can do that.


  • ooh yep I would have been a tad p’d off to say the least but I also would have then had a discussion on the extra name before the final decision was made with hubby to ensure he was happy with it and not just caving into mum. I’m also the personality type to have told him to ‘man up’ & not cave in. If it was important to him then it is an extra middle name not the main name. I would also be sure to let the MIL know I was not happy.


  • Personally I would like the whole story on this one …did the husband just cave in to his mother’s request? And seriously naming of this child needs discussion from both mum and dad so this mum maybe should have cancelled the naming for the time being and had it out with hubby.


  • I’d be replying to the MIL’s text telling her if she didn’t back off and stay out of our business she would end with reduced access to her grandchildren and a divorced son.


  • My mother in law is awful but this takes the cake. I’d have given my husband a choice between her adding a name and him continuing to be married to me. Very poor form on his part by not telling his mother to mind her own business. This should be a funny story she finds out years later “did I ever tell you my mother tried to make me add Christopher to our kids name when we were on our way to register it? She’s insane that woman” sort of thing. I don’t see that marriage lasting.


  • Only parents of the child have the right to name their child and others should respect this decision.


  • Oh dear! There are some advantages from living far away!!


  • My MIL put an ad in the local newspaper to announce the birth of “her grandchild” the day after he was born. My husband and I hadn’t even finished contacting the rest of our family members let alone making our own announcement in the newspaper!


  • Not quite at this level but she took it upon herself to announce my last pregnancy at a family gathering after we had made it clear that we weren’t telling everyone yet


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