A first-time-mum who took her baby to a family wedding, even though children weren’t invited, says she never meant to stir up the drama that unfolded after the nuptials.

The woman decided to take her 10-month-old baby to her cousin’s wedding ceremony and reception, even though a babysitter had been provided for children.

“My cousin lives a six hour drive from me and the rest of our family,” she explained on reddit. “A few months ago we all drove over there for his wedding. Due to limited space, no children were invited to the wedding except the bride’s young nieces and nephews.

“My baby was 10-months-old at the time and I wasn’t comfortable leaving him alone in an unfamiliar place with a stranger, which was a babysitter that my other cousins hired for their own kids. So I decided to bring him to the wedding.”

‘My baby did cry during the ceremony’

The new mum says she wrote on the RSVP that she would be bringing her baby, but he would sit on her lap and she would provide food for him. She says her cousin never replied so she assumed he was happy with the arrangement, and she took her baby to the wedding.

“My baby cried at the ceremony but I quickly took him out of the room. At the reception I had him with me the whole time in a body carrier. He didn’t make much of a fuss and I thought everything was OK.

“After the wedding my aunt (the groom’s mum) confronted me and told me that I was rude for bringing my baby without permission. I explained that I wrote on the RSVP what I was planning to do but my cousin didn’t object. She said that my cousin and his bride had a problem with it but the bride didn’t want to start any drama because she doesn’t know me well.

“My other cousin’s baby was seven-months-old at the time and my aunt said that he had no problem leaving his baby with the ‘certified’ babysitter and I should have done the same. And some of my cousins were upset because they thought that the groom gave me special treatment by letting me bring my baby and making them leave their kids with a babysitter. I didn’t mean to start any drama. Am I the a**hole?”

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  • I think she did wrong…she knew it going to be child free event.


  • Yes you were in the wrong. Should have reached out and spoke to them… Or just not gone


  • Definitely not right if mention that it is child free


  • Communication by all parties was lacking.


  • I would not take a baby to a wedding, but if I had to One of the parents would stay home


  • I think they were both partly to blame. The soon to be bride and groom for not replying to the new Mum and also to the new Mum who should have got in touch some way to clarify it would be okay. It’s just a lack of communication but not a reason to start a family feud.


  • I really think you need to respect that this was theirspecial day and they gave everyone the same instructions and that was not to bring children. Might be worth treating others like you want to be treated and using your listening skills.


  • Sounds like a very big break down of communication


  • I don’t think this was handled too well. Why didn’t she communicate this clearly?


  • You did inform them in writing on the rsvp so I would have taken the child too.


  • I wouldn’t have been keen to leave my kids with a stranger I get that but that’s why my husband or I stay back with the kids. You need to respect the person whose function it is and abide the rules they set.


  • I think that a phone call prior to deciding whether to go or not would have been in order. And maybe both sides are wrong in this case as the bride and groom could also have phoned. It is very annoying to have a baby crying during a wedding ceremony or any other church service for that matter, so the new mum should have thought long and hard before doing what she did.


  • I would have literally just stayed home… plus not sure why she couldn’t pick up the phone and talk to her cousin about it.. no one talks to anyone these days. And yes you are in the wrong


  • Should have actually spoken to the cousin before hand not just written you are taking bub on the RSVP.
    Personally I feel there are three options…hire your own baby sitter, one parent goes to the wedding and one stays at home with bub or both parents decline the invite .


  • I think there was some miscommunication and it could have been handled better prior to the wedding so assumptions weren’t made.


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