Why this mum was trolled online and called cruel is beyond ridiculous

Mum forced to block online trolls when she was left feeling very emotional and like a ‘bad mum’.

Mum of two, Kayliee Lorenzo, began dressing her children the same when her daughter Miya-Lei, now 4, was just three weeks old and admits it quickly became her obsession.

When the 25-year-old mum posted online about putting them in identical clothing, she was attacked by strangers telling her she is stealing their identity.

“It is what’s right for me and my children. I have never had a nasty comment about it before until I posted online. It really got me down.

“I felt like such a horrible person and a bad mum. I had to block people to stop the negative comments. I couldn’t handle it.

“They were saying I don’t let them be kids and said, ‘I bet they are scared in case they get their nice clothes dirty. Do they ever have dress-down days instead of being dressed to the nines?’

“It was a big shock to my system. I don’t feel like I have been doing anything wrong. It really upset me and made me emotional.

“It is so much easier to pick the same outfit for them and as a full-time mum I have a lot on my plate. I’m not forcing them to dress the same. They enjoy dressing the same and I enjoy dressing them like that.

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“I spend every penny I have on my children. I thought every parent did that because once you have kids that is all that matters.”

“This is something I have always done. I picked up a dress for one of them and realised they had both sizes and I thought it would be cute.

“It became my little obsession. I get them matching socks and bibs too. For my youngest it is just normal to her. It is only in the past year that she started speaking more and asking for clothes.

“It is what they both want and like. I’ve only recently had a problem with it. It is just harmless. When they want to stop dressing the same that will be up to them.

“I don’t think it’s an issue with them being so small. I will just keep it going until they say they don’t want to dress the same.

“I know that the day will come when they get to a certain age and are in school and have other friends. I won’t be upset. I have enjoyed it while they are young. I like taking them shopping. I just think it’s cute.”

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13 Comments

- - LuckyMum said
  - 27 Jan 2019
    3:29 am
Each to their own. This one reason I don’t like social media sometimes. It’s the mums choice and she shouldn’t have been shamed because of it

- - mom101628 said
  - 03 Jan 2019
    9:48 pm
This is not a problem for the girls – they would be very vocal about it if it were. The problem is the stupid people trolling on social media. I often dislike social media and I do again with this post.

- - mom81879 said
  - 21 Jun 2018
    5:52 pm
I think it’s cute to dress the kids the same, very cruel for people to be trolling her for it

- - june11 said
  - 13 Feb 2018
    10:55 pm
Some kids love dressing the same, same hairstyles, and even have the same hobbies – by choice. One family the parents introduced them to a few activities, sat back, said nothing and over a week or so both children went to either Mum or Dad and told them what they wanted to do. Surprising they both chose the same and one of them had been away on an extended sleepover and they hadn’t had any contact at all.

- - Ellen said
  - 16 Jan 2018
    7:53 am
I’ve 2 sisters in care who regularly dress the same, their own decision. They’re 8 and 9 years old.
And I bought myself a shirt not long ago and bought the same for my daughter, she loves it and wants to wear it when I’m wearing it.

- - mom90758 said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    6:45 pm
I don’t find it a problem either. The day will come when they want different clothes, and I’m sure the mother will accept that.

- - nealsq said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    4:19 pm
seriously, this is what they are complaining about now, what a horrible mother for making sure her children have clothes! I think there are far more important things to worry about than someone putting their kids in matching outfits!

- - ashna9 said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    4:07 pm
Each to their own. As long as the child is happy with it then fine. I’m sure her kids will let her know when they want to dress differently. I don’t think it’s harming them as such.

- - nadine_hill said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    4:06 pm
Absolutely nothing wrong with this …. my sister and I were dressed identically for many of our younger years and it didn’t bother us ….. Mum knew when the time was right to let us express our own tastes and personalities x

- - jacqbeckett said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    3:50 pm
theres a family that I know of, kids age grade 6 to prep including the mother and father. they all dress the same when they go away and on occasions. I think its fun and its interesting to see what the mother comes up with their own ideas, creative minds.
my mother used to dress me the same as my sisters when we were little. It didn’t bother me. I look back at the photos and go ohh we had a matching outfit.
when the girls get older, I’m sure they will have their own voice.

- - mom160919 said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    3:16 pm
They will eventually speak up and say they don’t want to dress the same as each other and until then let Mum dress them however she wants.

- - mom160421 said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    1:29 pm
I don’t think this is an issue. She’s not doing any harm and things will eventually change.

- - mom206279 said
  - 15 Jan 2018
    11:53 am
It won’t hurt them. They will get to their teenage years and naturally want different styles and personalities and it will come to an end with very little fuss. Any girl who had a sister close in age in the 80s dealt with this. We’re all fine.