A first-time-dad has missed the birth of his daughter, after his wife kicked him out of the delivery room over insensitive remarks he made during labour.

The 32 year-old first-time-mum says the labour was going well, and while she was in a lot of pain, her 34-year-old husband was being supportive.

“The midwife was asking us questions about the baby etc in between contractions just to help me ease my mind a little,” she explained on reddit.

“Then she said if we are excited about the pregnancy being over and I said yes, because it’s been hard for me. My husband snorted and said, ‘For me too, she was so difficult’. Midwife tried to change the subject, but I asked my husband what the f he means by that, and he said that he is happy it’s over and he will get his wife back and ‘the hormonal mess is over’.”

The labouring mum says she couldn’t face having her husband stay in the room after the insult and wanted him out.

“I was so hurt and told him to please just leave the room. He said he’s not going anywhere, because his child is being born here. I yelled at him to get the f out and he was pissed off, called me an a**hole for making him miss his kid’s birth and stormed off.

“He hasn’t been back to see our daughter, he is supposed to come later today.”

This mum is now wondering if she did the wrong thing in kicking her husband out of the delivery room. Let us know what you think in the comments below. 

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  • That husband really should have known better in the moment. A woman in labour is not in the mood to be laughed at. I hope he’s apologetic.


  • Birth and pain can really make us crazy.


  • Men always stick their foot in things like that. A little bit of a over reaction by making him miss it I think but each to their own. I’m more wondering if he showed yet…


  • men never think before they say in sensitive times, but I dont think I would have kicked him out


  • A bit of an over reaction, but he was being a total pain too. Growing a human is hard.


  • It may have been an overreaction but he was being a total jerk. Hopefully he realises this now and apologises for saying what he did. Maybe he was just trying to ease the tension but it was said at the wrong time. I hope they can work through this.


  • I think she was being over sensitive, but being in that situation, totally acceptable to over react


  • Yeah, possibly a little bit of an overreaction. I hope they sorted it out and repaired their relationship.


  • If I had a cent for every insensitive comment my husband said to me throughout our marriage I would be a very rich single lady. If I had kicked him out of the delivery room for saying something like that then we wouldn’t have gone on to have another two kids.


  • You robbed him of a once in a life time event because your feelings were hurt and you couldn’t let his initial comment go! Pregnant women can be difficult! We have epic hormones that influence everything. So what if he said you were being difficult during your pregnancy. My husband rolled his eyes when I said this pregnancy is going to be very hard on me, (I suffer from chronic pain at the best of times and this time I had GD so couldn’t even eat the foods I love). I got annoyed but let it go. Your husband was probably stressed out and trying to make light of the situation. Not so sure I’d forgive you if I were in your husband’s position!


  • Oh no…. Not good that he has missed the birth. This is going to be a tricky thing, I hope they get past it. My. hubby says things he thinks is funny and their not and I can understand in a hormonal state etc. how it could have gotten out of hand but kicking him out to miss the labour is extreme.


  • I am so pleased husbands weren’t allowed in the delivery room in my day. I could just imagine my ex saying something like was said to this mum, thinking he was being funny, and getting everyone in the delivery room upset over one of his ‘wisecracks’. Hope you mend the problem and can plaster over the cracks in the long term.


  • Wow, definitely not something to say to a woman in labour! That being said they do need to work through their issues, forgive each other and move past this.


  • I definitely think what he said was insensitive and the timing of the comment wasn’t great either but I don’t think the punishment fits the crime. He’s now missed the birth of his first child, something he can never get back and from the additional information provided (he hasnt been to see the child yet), its already had an impact on the father bonding with the child. Perhaps there is more to this story, more went on in the relationship or during the pregnancy and that’s why she asked him to leave as apposed to moving away and sitting quietly in the corner… I think its a decision she will come to regret.


  • Sure I’d be annoyed but it’s a little extreme making him miss the birth of his child

    • Missing the birth of a child id Something that you can never see again and I really feel for the dad to have missed it. What he said wasn’t right, but the mums reaction was a bit much I think


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