It may be an innocent, well-meaning question but it can be devastating for some couples. A woman has shared the reason why strangers should never ask other people why they don’t have kids.
Canadian Lisa Marie opened up on Twitter about a hurtful confrontation she recently had when a stranger questioned why she didn’t yet have any children.
Many others related to the post, which has been re-tweeted over 99,000 times.
She followed up with a further explanation of her situation.
Mind Your Own Business
“Seriously, though: Don’t ask people why they don’t have kids or stopped at one. There can be so many painful, personal reasons why that’s the case. Regardless of your reasons, it’s nobody’s business.
“This is my real life and something I get asked constantly. And it’s never a comfortable conversation the times I have to tackle it.
“It’s sad we have to lay our hearts out there so bare just to get some peace and quiet about something that’s nobody’s business but ours.”
Many supporters responded that they had received similar awkward questions.
“I once had an entire crew laugh at me because I said ‘I’m working overtime so we can have a child’.
“When one of them said ‘You need to be home more to have a kid’ I had to tell them that my wife has a genetic condition that results in a 1 in 16 chance of taking a baby to term.”
While another said, “We kept getting asked all through years of infertility. Eventually we took your route and just said “we’re trying but failing”. Made people shut up real fast.”
“My wife had an awful pregnancy and delivery/c-section, and terrible post-partum issues, and decided she didn’t want any more,” wrote another.
“Somehow that response is not acceptable to people. I’m just going to start saying I’m infertile to spare her from it.”
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