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I have learnt over the years that confidence comes so much more from within and is less about physical appearance only.

Once we knock over the superficial things, we are still the same person inside. Often, people think their lives would change once they were just a little bit skinnier, landed that killer new job, change their hair or even buy a sexy new dress. But when it comes down to it, if we aren’t confident on the inside, it is almost impossible for this to radiate on the outside. Energy attracts energy and if we are exuding confidence, those around us will start to absorb our energy and feel the confidence.

If you feel like you are starting to lack self confidence, or have been feeling this way for a long time, try to start to take control of your life. Thankfully, a lack of self-confidence isn’t genetic, it’s not something we are born with and stick with for life. It is something you can change, if you take the time to work on it.

The bad news is, there is no quick fix. It is a gradual process but there is no time like the present to take charge. The good news is, as you build confidence you will build success and no one can take this away from you!

Just remember to give yourself a pat on the back every once and awhile too!

Many women with hair loss as a result of cancer, alopecia, genetic hair thinning, female pattern hair loss or even women who don’t like the hair they were blessed with can feel their confidence slowly dwindling away. Our hair can be seen as a major part of who we are as women and it can define our femininity. But is our hair all we are made up of? Are we going to let this one thing hold us back from achieving our life goals? Let’s try not to!

It is almost impossible to achieve everything we set out to do in life when we have a lack of confidence or low self esteem hanging over our heads. So, let’s challenge ourselves to boost our confidence. We all have it in us to rock our confidence outfits, and remember you are amazing! And remember to remind yourself of this every day so you can pursue your dreams and build up your confidence more and more each day!

By working on my confidence, it has allowed me to overcome my fears and finally pursue my dreams and, you know what, the best part about pursuing my dreams is I now get to help other women build their confidence.

I love seeing women walk into the salon, timid, withdrawn and undoubtedly insecure. Once transformed with a beautiful new wig or hair topper, they leave happy and I have beauties literally bouncing out the door! This honestly makes my day and brings the biggest smile to my face. It makes it all worth it.

When I first launched my salon, I was very cautious about sharing my story, as I didn’t want to look like I was “tooting my own horn”.

However, the response was overwhelming which ultimately has made it so worth it. Many women reached out as a result of reading my story that I soon realised my mission was accomplished, and I was going to help change people’s lives.

I would like to share with you my ten top tips to help boost my confidence daily! I work in an industry where I am face to face with women (and children) with major confidence issues so I need to be feeling my best, to help my clients be their best too! Most of my clients have absolutely no hair on their heads.

Pick a couple and see how you go, then try do a few more, or add some of your own.

  1. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones.

  2. Exercise and Eat Well – trust me, your body will thank you for it! Every morning I get up and do at least 30mins of exercise, to get the blood pumping and let the serotonin kick in!

  3. Dress to impress.

  4. Act positive – actions speak louder than words.

  5. Prepare yourself for success – I always feel more confident when I feel prepared going into a situation, whether it be work related or a netball grand final.

  6. Stand tall and ooze that confidence girlfriend.

  7. De-clutter your surroundings.

  8. Talk to yourself, like you would someone you love.

  9. Choose your relationships wisely – surround yourself with those who lift you higher and encourage you to pursue your goals.

  10. Fake it till you make it – If you believe in yourself enough, faking it will eventually turn into a reality and you have made it girl!

Do I have bad days? Of course I do! This is all part of the journey. I need to ground myself and remember what I have achieved and switch myself back into that positive mindset. If I can’t, I’ll call someone who will. Don’t be afraid to show weakness and reach out to your bestie, mum, colleague or anyone who will help lift you back up.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” – Oscar Wilde

Hair loss will affect your confidence, but you can learn to live with it, and you will overcome it and it ultimately this will give you the strength to also overcome challenges in other areas of your life. I honestly believe I am a stronger person because of it.

How do you overcome this to help others? First, you have to completely accept yourself for who you are, love yourself and be open to telling people your story. Women crave the strength in others to aspire to. If I was still sad and insecure about my lack of hair, then this wouldn’t work, I couldn’t put myself out there to help other women. I needed to feel beautiful within and confident with how I look to be able to inspire other women to feel confident in how they look. Hair loss doesn’t need to define you, it just one tiny part of who you are.

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  • Definitely be the mistress of your own thoughts and the creator of your own life.

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  • Some good advice here. Alas it is easier said then done to improve your self confidence

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  • Fake it ’til you make it has been a long standing phrase I say almost weekly!

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  • I wasn’t confident as a child because I was shy and was bullied. I am a “natural left handed” person according to the paediatrician my parents took me to. At 6 months old I would only take my rattle or other toys with my left hand no matter where it was put. The school was advised. The first teacher I had slapped me across the back of my hand every time I tried to write or draw in front of the other children. That made me so upset because I was teased. After about 3 weeks I went home with a bright red sore hand and was asked about it by my Mum before Dad got home from work. Mum went and saw the Headmistress the next morning and told her she would get a letter from the paeditrician (told her his name too) if she needed to prove it The Headmistress changed attitude. Apparently he was very well known. My confidence gradually improved after the teacher stopped hitting me and the kids had nothing to laugh about. My Dad was very strict and didn’t like me trying new things.

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  • I am fairly ordinary and yet I’ve always had self confidence. I think it’s a feeling of knowing that I’m not better than anyone else yet no one else is better than me – a feeling of equality.

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  • Love this article and love the quote by Oscar Wilde.

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  • Having/Choosing positive people in your life really does help but unfortunately one can not chose their relations/family..so no 9 will not work all the time.

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  • Having positive thoughts and positive people in your life is a must have!

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