Women who set limits on what they will and will not do – often say they feel calmer, clearer, confident and more successful. This is ‘Part 1′ of 15 ways to set boundaries for your success.
There is no doubt that our lives have sped up. There is more information for us to process, more relationships, more things to learn and more buckets for us to fill.
“We still all have desires for greater freedom and ease.”
Along side the changes in the pace of our world, we have the opportunity to make is to change how we limit (choose) where we will spend our time, energy and resources.
Women, who have made changes in how they handle their information, their workloads and how often they invest in themselves, now have clear boundaries of focus and limits on how they spend their precious energy, and as a result; they experience life in a more fulfilled way, without sacrificing their high performance.
It’s more fulfilled because they are getting more of what they do want and a lot less of what they don’t want. They accomplish this by doing experiments and then find what really works and they become more efficient as a result.
Here are some examples of practices of limiting to experiment with:
1. Limit the number of things you attempt to accomplish in a day (and then leave time to rejuvenate and recharge your mind, body and spirit).
Instead of working from that list of 80 items – why not identify 3-4 important projects to make traction on today and then make an unbreakable commitment to move those forward.
You know this experiment is for you, if at the end of each day – you have been busy – yet have not moved forward on your own meaningful projects, if all your time has been eaten up by processing email, answering questions, or doing daily chores, then it might just be time for an experiment like this one.
How to LIMIT things to reduce feelings of overwhelm.
2. Focus on the most meaningful things (to you) this experiment is about aligning all your tasks for a day to what is really important to you.
This experiment is a good one to try when you find yourself doing everything for everyone else and not enough for yourself.
3. Separate WANTS from NEEDS (and make sure you get your needs met first).
This experiment is for you, if things are feeling out of balance, and you feel things are missing from your life.
When you are crystal clear about what a need is and what a want is – you can better divide your current resources and then make goals to move yourself go forward quicker. It helps you refocus energy that perhaps has been pulled away from what is most important and realign it to what you really need now.
More than anything else though, taking care of your own needs first, means that you will have a full tank of energy from which to draw energy to aid others.
4. Learn how to be an expert at saying no effectively.
This experiment is about being crystal clear of what you will say yes to and what you will say no to, and as equally clear about how you will handle your ‘maybe’s’. When you get good at saying no – you align your efforts to what is most meaningful to you – and that is fulfilling.
5. Get Realistic.
This experiment is about putting some energy in moving your dreams and desires into concrete awareness and action. Realism comes when you are crystal clear of every step that will move a dream from vision to completion.
If you haven’t crystallised your intentions by crafting out a step by step plan… chances are you are missing some pieces that only come clear in a space of realism.
This experiment is for you if you are not 100% confident of all the time, energy and resources it will take to reach your goal.
6. Leave behind the things you say, or do for validation.
This might be an experiment in not giving a crap of what other people think of you. Well, actually it’s more than that. It’s about feeling so full of self-love that you will be whole and complete without the need for validation outside of yourself.
This experiment is for you if you find yourself holding back your own self-expression out of concern someone wouldn’t like what you say or do.
In our next post, we’ll give some ways to set limits around the energy in our bodies and our own daily behaviours.