A resolution means to resolve something that is not working, to fix something, which implies that we are broken.
It’s a promise we make to ourselves that once made, only 8% of people actually follow through with. We are often left feeling like a total failure.
For centuries, this tradition was a made at the start of the year by creating a list of things we may wish to achieve over the course of the next 12 months.
I have in the past always written a list on New Years Day of what I wanted for the New Year. I keep this list in my phone and reflect on it towards the end of each year. I recently read my New Year Resolutions for 2014 and I must admit that although some were achieved, many items on my list never even got a look in!
So I thought about why I had not achieved my list in 2014? Was I lazy, had I changed my mind, were the items unobtainable to me? I have processed my thoughts over the past few weeks and decided I want to start 2015 differently.
I tend to place an enormous amount of pressure on myself, often placing a list of at least 20 items that must be achieved in a year. What if I were to start the year by writing a smaller list of steps.
Steps are so different to a New Years Resolution or a goal because with steps, we actually implement an action plan. It’s the method we are going to take to achieve what we want. Steps are specific (what is it you wish to do), measureable (when do you want to action this by), achievable (are you able to complete it), realistic (comes with a timeframe).
Of course your dreams should challenge you enough that at times they may even scare you but let’s start writing a list that we actually action. You are drawing a map so to speak about the direction you want to head in. Like one of my favourite quotes says, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”
I may have a goal to write two books in 2015. When I read this goal, it overwhelms me as I worry about how I am going to find the time to complete this. I start to procrastinate and the goal never gets achieved. If I set myself steps, where I commit to writing for two hours on a Monday and Friday morning, its breaks down this overwhelming goal and I focus on what I actions I need to take to get my desired outcome. It’s a shift in how we look at things.
The first step is to write down 1 – 5 things you really want to do in 2015. It can be travelling, work related, relationship related or a health/personal target.
Specific: What do I want to achieve?
Measurable: When am I going to action this?
Achievable: Who or how can I ensure I action this
Timeframe: When I am starting this goal and by when should it be completed?
Once you have done this, transfer this information into your diary so you keep to it like an appointment, for example; January 6th I am starting a 30 day Bikram yoga challenge.
Then, forget the goal and commit to the process.
Do you have New Years resolutions every year? Have you ever achieved your resolution?