Absolutely! Having seen firsthand how 2nd hand smoke can affect your lungs now I would not allow anyone to touch my children before bathing. I watched my mother suffer from COPD & Asthma from breathing 2nd hand smoke daily & towards the end just having the smell of it on people’s clothing would trigger breathing issues. My father & I smoked in the home for many years so Mum was breathing it daily, towards the end she told me it felt like someone was sitting on her chest & suffocating her. I quit the filthy habit well before her death but any of her friends if they wished to visit had to refrain from a ciggie before dropping in, they were banned from coming if not.

I totally understand it’s not easy though, particularly when they are an in-law and you don’t want to offend or make it seem like you don’t want them touching the baby.

I feel mums right on this. I my self am allergic to nicotine (odd allergy yes ,but not a bad one), so when I’m near someone smoking or touch someone that’s been bathing in their smoke I break out in hives. I would not a smoker to carry my baby and share all that thirdhand smoke and possibly harm them.
This might be a good way to ask to stop smoking for the sake of her grandchild?

I really don’t know how I’d behave in this situation. I would probably just ask her to wash her hands.

Her baby. She pays the bills .
Me my parents smoked so did my sisters washing there hands was enough.
As you cannot protect baby from everything . Car fumes bus fumes . People farting . Yes . No one is perfect .
And one day I might need there help so I am not about to really upset anyone .
Ore thing in the world to worry about .
Like I said it’s her family .
And it’s there child .
But blood is thicker than water .
And if her and hubby was to die tomorrow who is prepared to step up and raise this child .
Our parents .

As a non smoker who was subjected to second hand smoke through my childhood, I have no problems asking my mum and MIL to clean up before handling my babies. My MIL had no problem with it, my Mum was a bit taken back but she knows I hate it so accepted it. I don’t think she understands why I never visit her though.

I have never cared about offending people. I have a strict no smoking rule around my children. I don’t dare who you are, if you are a smoker you can’t touch my kids.

I think I would first talk about my concerns with her and see if she is willing not to smoke before coming to visit her grandchild. Telling her also about the smoking lingering in dresses. Maybe, if she really loves her grandchild, she would be willing to do that by herself. But you will never know, unless you ask.

She has every right to ask but l believe that it is extreme!

I think it’s a good idea

As the product of being raised by a smoker and the lifelong impact it has had on my health. I say good on her and she is making sure her bub has the best chance in life

My husband is a smoker and my son has quite bad asthma and I hate it when I can smell it on him.

I was told about third hand smoke by my obgyn and is something we are only just learning the effects of. It’s particularly bad for newborns as they are more seceptable.

Sure they have the right to ask. Personally I think it’s a bit over the top though and can indeed be perceived as offensive.

Yes, 100% she has the right to ask her mil to do this. When it comes to the safety of your babies, nothing us to extreme. My son smoked when he became a father. The health professionals told him to smoke out side and wear a robe or jacket which was to be removed after smoking. If they can ask the sad to do this, for sure you can insist on mil doing similar