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Constance Hall shares one of her Queens battle with early menopause.

Constance shared a post on her Facebook page explaining the battle that Sophie and Simon are facing.

Constance writes, Sophie has been experiencing symptoms for the past 7 years which include, weight gain around her tummy, irregular periods and in her words “Very F#@king Hot Flushes. Sophie recalls a “twatty specialist” ignoring her symptoms and advising her that if she wanted to conceive a baby she just needed to lose some weight as she was ushered out of the door. Not exactly the royal treatment. Sophie went else where and received her diagnosis of Premature Menopause, a condition that effects 1% of women aged under 40.

Sophie is 35 and two years ago she met the love of her life Simon. Before meeting Simon she had no idea that she wanted children but is now finding herself tearing up at the sight of them. Premature Menopause apart from many other almost unbearable symptoms has also meant that Sophie and Simon are unable to conceive a child due to her lack of eggs, despite being desperate to start a family.

So on Tuesday evening at 5.22, Sophie took to Facebook, informing her loved ones of this condition that isn’t spoken about enough and putting out a request for help. She wasn’t looking for sympathy, far from it. She wanted help. She was looking for a Queen, a selfless caring women to donate eggs and help her and Simon start their family.

If there is one thing we can rely on in the world, its the powerful combination of Queens and the cyber gods. The post was shared, it has so far been shared 44 times.

Sophie stated in the post that she and Simon live in Adelaide, they ideally would love a women to donate her eggs and be comfortable to be a part of the child’s story as they believe in honesty and would want an open flow of communication when the time comes.

Sophie didn’t expect to hear from anybody after her post. She didn’t think anybody would consider putting themselves out to help a complete stranger and she certainly didn’t expect to turn on her Facebook and see 26 responses from Queens from all over Australia wanting to help and with a few real potential donors in the bunch Sophie is feeling happy, humbled, scared, grateful and overwhelmed with a distinct resonating feeling of “How Awesome are Queens?”

Aside from a lot of love, Sophie had this message for the Queens, “please consider freezing your eggs if you possibly can and please, please consider egg donation, google it, learn what it entails, there are so few donors and so many couples in need.”

Simon added – “Thank you SO SO very much Constance for all the exposure your article has given us. Thank you also to the amazing Queens who have shared their stories and offered their eggs in the past, present and future. Thank you to the brave Queens who have shared their stories of hardships.

We have barely been married 6 months and have had to face this devastating, unacceptable and unfair news. Neither of us were really ready for children yet, but having the option taken away from us certainly changed that. Childbirth is something that can so easily be taken for granted and although the chance of a “mini-me” is still possible, I wanted more than anything for him/her to be half Sophie and half me. Unfortunately that cannot happen now but after reading everyone’s stories I can see that it’s almost irrelevant. I LOVE the idea of an “egg aunty”!

Our heads are still spinning around the amazing response we have received, even prior to Constance generously helping our cause. To be honest I have no idea what we do now, there are so many wonderful and generous women who have offered to help us that I don’t even know where to begin sifting through this wonderful list of human kindness. All I can say is, again, more sincerely than I have ever been, THANK YOU.”

Constance Hall’s post has been shared nearly 8K times.  Many of the 300+ comments come from people who have experienced their own personal journey with egg donation. Like Cass who shared the below post with Mouths of Mums.

If you are interested in becoming an egg donor you can find out more on Egg Donation Australia.

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  • I too am looking for an egg donor being in a very similar situation. My go said menopause at 32 , i got another opinion and was told no way just PCOS. Then low and behold specialist tells me i have FSH levels 90+ and oegg count of less than 1- heartbreaking when all you want to do is complete your family.

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  • Egg donation is indeed not a simple thing to do. But it’s fantastic that there are women out there willing to help other women in need. :-)

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  • Not sure why but all these things for females are so much more complicated then for men.
    Men can donate sperm easily. Im sure more females would be happy to donate eggs if it was as simple as walking into an office and spending a few minutes in a room with a test tube. Sadly its not that easy.

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  • its funny how I have spoken to my husband years about this. I’m still young, got 2 children one of each sex…my husband is finished with having anymore children, I wasn’t too sure but my 2 children are so different, one needs more help and support than the other which does take up some of my time. if I plan to have another, it will be a massive age gap. I have once asked my husband about me donating my eggs…I just wanted to see what his answer would be.. his answer was no he wouldn’t like that as he says its would be like looking at another child that has your dna as well as our children too…I think in his words, he feels cheated. since this post has came up, I would be interested to see what his answer is now. I would like to donate my eggs, ive got a donor card so if anything happens to me, everything is taken so I don’t see why I cant donate my eggs to some couple that are trying for a baby.

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  • I know egg donation is a hard thing, but thank heavens for those who are able and who do it. Giving blood is easy and it is amazing how many people won’t do that. After having 4 children and having a very wrecked body, I was given tubal ligation – and as far as I know could not donate eggs. I loved having children and would have had more myself and would have helped if I was able – but my doctor’s said no. So pleased this subject was raised and congrats to the donors.


    • Some people aren’t allowed to donate blood because of medication they are forced to take to have quality of life.

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  • Egg donation is not easy. I hope they are successful.

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  • The journey for some women to become mothers is harder than for others – I wish those mums all the best in their endeavors to become mothers.

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  • Its always going to be a debatable subject but I think it should be easier for women to donate and receive eggs if the choose to.

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  • I just caution that egg donation is not necessarily simple or straightforward medically. Go into it knowing this.

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