A letter to any parent contemplating the worst.
I know you’re in pain.
There are struggles you face which you feel no one else does. That only you can resolve. And you can’t see a way out of the darkness.
You may have tried to get guidance from the people closest to you, or you may be keeping your troubles to yourself.
You may be tired of hearing the same generic response over and over again, or believe that no one understands how you truly feel at this moment in time.
And it is just that – a brief moment in time.
Just Know The Worst WON’T Last
This trialing moment is not going to last, it will pass, just as all the other struggles you faced over the years passed, and you succeeded with those.
You have to have been successful, otherwise you wouldn’t be here right now.
This May Not Be The ‘Real’ Heartache
Of course, this doesn’t change the hell you feel you are in right now, but, what if it only ‘feels’ like hell?
What if the real heartache comes after we pass from this magnificent earth?
As parents, one of the greatest joys comes from being there for our children during their times of great need.
Helping them, guiding them and comforting them whenever they need us to.
You Won’t Be Able To Be There
What if you could see your child, crying, inconsolable, because all they want is you and you can’t be there for them to love, console and ease their pain.
That sounds pretty hellish to me and I can’t imagine anything more painful than not being able to soothe the beautiful little beings that mean more to you than anything else in the world.
I am not trying to take away from the challenging situation you face which causes you to feel like your children would be better off without you.
You WILL Make It Through!
There is absolutely nothing I can do to help you through it other than remind you that you’ve faced hardships in the past and you will make it through this one with as much grace as you have before.
I do wish you strength, love and positivity to get you through the dark times.
Don’t Gamble On The Unknown
Most importantly however, I want to remind you that none of us know what happens to our souls when we die, so rather than take a gamble on the unknown, I encourage you to back yourself, because even though I don’t know you, I know you are capable of amazing things, we all are!
Breathe, just breathe!
I Know What It Feels Like
I am a wife, blessed with seven little ones, two of whom have severe disabilities.
I know what darkness looks like. In fact, I recall from a very young age being told how worthless I was, that I should have been drowned at birth and that I should hang myself.
Fortunately, I made it through each and every single dark day, and just think of all the life and love I would have missed out on if I hadn’t.
Situations can’t always run smoothly, otherwise the boredom alone would be the death of mankind.
You CAN Get Through This!
I have unwavering belief in the power of positive thoughts, in looking at the bigger picture, beyond the immediate struggles, to the future where you live each day with confidence knowing that you aren’t immune to negative experiences. Within you, you hold everything you need to successfully manoeuvre yourself through any obstacle which comes your way with grace, love and compassion.
I truly do believe everyone is capable of making it through, even if you don’t believe in yourself right now.
Reach out for help, there are so many resources available to us today. And sometimes a phone call can make the world of difference.
Wishing you health, love, strength and prosperity, now and always!
If this article has raised issues for you, or if you’re concerned about someone you know, call Lifeline on 13 11 14.
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