After several painful years trying to have a baby, one woman says the thought of spending Mother’s Day celebrating with her mother-in-law fills her with dread.
But she’s not sure if she’s being unreasonable by continually refusing to spend the day with her husband’s family, because she’s carrying the weight of her own infertility.
She says she and her husband have been struggling with infertility for years, including a number of miscarriages and two failed IVF cycles.
“For obvious reasons, Mother’s Day is hard for me,” she explained. “I don’t like celebrating it and it’s a reminder if everything we’ve gone through. I have told my husband this repeatedly, but my MIL keeps inviting us to Mother’s Day brunches even though this is a major pain point.”
The couple are in the midst of another IVF cycle, and Mother’s Day will be especially emotional this year.
“We just had an embryo implantation last Thursday and the pregnancy test to see if it worked is the day after Mother’s Day. I know it’s stupid but I don’t want to go celebrate my MIL and SIL and their successful pregnancies while worrying about whether mine will continue.
“My mother-in-law however, is, let’s say ‘less than thrilled’. It’s starting to get to me and I’m worried I am being unreasonable for wanting to stay home. Am I the a**hole for not attending?”
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