Not selfish, I work in a hospital and I frequently see mums in their 40s having babies. With the medical world being where it is and all the advancements it not like parents are fitter for lo ger than they were in past generations so i say go for it.

No not at all selfish ! It’s nice to read the different answers from the different mums on here. In the end it’s totally up to you and your husband whether you go for another baby or not and nobody else’s opinion really matters. In fact I think it’s quite rude to judge and pressure you opinion on others whilst they often don’t even ask for it.

I don’t think that is selfish at all. It sounds as though there has been a lot of planning involved with consideration to what is best to all parties. At least they didn’t have kids and and then neglect them to pursue their own interests. They only thing to consider is extra risks involved with a later pregnancy, but as long as they are healthy they could very likely have a completely normal pregnancy.

Along with my other comments below; there is no point in thinking back and questioning decisions made with maybe? There really is no turning back time and everyone has their own life and own timeframes and life is more interesting when we are all different and their is variety. Always stick to your own life plan and timelines.

Too many people think they have the right to comment and have opinions on others lives, you dont even have to know your critics thanks to social media. Furst time Mums are getting older as time goes by. I was 23 and 26 when I had my kids, my doctor commented how young I was…..I dont think I was. It’s totally up to you! You do you boo

Each to their own – no one should judge another. Everyone has their own challenges and adventures to experience.
Do whatever you feel is the best for you and your family. Only you know what will be right.
People will comment whether you are young parents, whether you are older parents.

It is definitely more difficult to both conceive and look after children once you are older. However, plenty of people do it and do an excellent job of it. Just as long as you are doing it for the right reasons and understand that you will be older than most other parents of children the same age.

Everyone is different and if it’s now that you feel ready for it, don’t let other people judgement get to you. It’s your life, follow your instinct. Having this child will bring you and ur partner now that you both feel ready will only make your family be complete and filled with love. Cherish every bit if it.

I would tell this mum to follow her heart and what will bring joy to her home, and not seek the approval of anyone outside of it. The best thing for a child is to be in a happy, loving home filled with support and purpose. It sounds like that’s what this mum and her husband have.

Being an only child myself, I encourage you to have a second child. My Mother would agree with me. She wishes she had so looking after her in her old age can be shared.
My friend had her first baby at 53 years old. She doesn’t regret it. She ended up having her second baby four years later.

I just had my second at 44, with a 7 year age gap. He’s 1 werk old and the absolute best thing ever. No one is guaranteed anything in life, we could live to 90 or tragically lose our life much earlier. Do what’s right for you, and ignore everyone else. Im so glad I did.

Everyone’s timeline is different. Some people do wait, some don’t and some unfortunately have problems. I know a few families that have had children in their 40s and they are doing fine. This is for you to decide and no one else.

I don’t really understand why it would be selfish to have a kid in your 40s…
I feel like you’re in a better place, like you would earn more money than when you were younger and you’re also more mature and wiser with decision making. You’ve also done everything you want to so don’t feel like you’re missing out or having regrets.

I dont think its a selfish choice at all! Such a personal choice! You’ve done everything you wanted to do before kids so you’ll never regret having more! Theres so much you wouldn’t of been able to do if youd had kids earlier. Enjoy the memories you’ve made and enjoy the new ones!

You made the best decisions you could. And it doesn’t sound like you really regret them – which is great. You’ve a wonderful full life. I too had my youngest child in my 40s – less a choice, more life circumstances- and ultimately it’s been great. Everything has trade offs and I don’t think you’re wrong.

Not selfish at all. How is bringing more love into the world a selfish thing? Alot of women are waiting til theyre older now to have children and 40 i fine i think. 50s is pushing it and would be unfair on the child. But 40, I think go for it

I think each to their own. People shouldn’t judge especially family. I had my eldest son in my early 20’s and then another 2 kids when I married my husband in my low and mid 30’s. We did things opposite. We haven’t travelled whatsoever. We will probably wait until we’re retired now to travel the world.

I think parents can make there own choice on when they want to have kids, people can comment and have opinions but in the end the parents to be are the ones that should get to make this decision and if people around them can’t support them then they shouldn’t be part of there lives. I am sure the child will be loved and I am sure the parents have considered all the factors. People are having kids a lot later in life to ensure they have financial stability first, it really is no ones business other than that family.

Lol, I married when I was 38 years old and we had our first when I was 40 ! When our kids were a bit older we adopted a girl with Down Syndrome into our family. The age difference between her and me is 50 years ! Is that selfish ? I don’t think so. We lay the grounds for a solid foundation and she’s super loved. Of course I have some concerns and wonder what will happen to her when we’re not there any more, but our focus is to love and cherish and instill as much independence we can. My own kids don’t mind to have slightly older parents and we’re very close.

It really does not matter what anyone else thinks and everyone has their own timelines for when they want to do things. It is also does not concern others and they do not get a say in the life decisions of others; even family members. It is always important to be authentic and live your own life!