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Mum shares her story to remind people it is NEVER OK to judge another family.

Dallas Lynn originally shared on her Facebook page this time last year and has reposted to remind people again…

“We were in Walmart standing in a long line waiting to check out. My sweet 2 year old wanted me to hold him. As I picked him up out of the cart, his shirt came up exposing his two stomas and bags on his stomach. Typically, I have a onesie underneath his shirt but tonight I just got him dressed quickly to run to the store. The onesie helps to keep his bags in one place and makes it harder for him to tug and pull them off.

There was an older woman in line behind me who caught a glimpse and shrieked a little before she said to me “why in the world would you let someone do that to him?”

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I turned around speechless and just looked at her before she continued and asked why he had them. I gave her the short version and basically said “his colon didn’t finish forming so he needed them.” I left out that he had a rare disease called Hirschsprung’s disease because I was a little annoyed from her first statement.

She then goes “well I am sorry but I just think that is so ‘repulsing’, can you please keep his shirt down?” At this point I just wanted to shake this woman and scream “what is wrong with you?!” But instead, I told her to have a good night and went to another line.

So now I’m sharing this picture, because there is nothing repulsive about my son. Stomas and ostomies seem to be a taboo, when in reality, over 500,000 Americans have one. My sons disease may be rare, but his stomas are not.

So here’s a little education for anyone who doesn’t know about stomas and ostomies. An stoma is an surgically created opening that allows body to expel waste. Both of my sons are from his colon, but stomas can be from your ileum (small intestine), or bladder.

Was this the first choice of a life I would have chosen for my son? Absolutely not. But this was his only shot at life. When he was 2 weeks old, his colon ruptured. It left him with a life threatening infection that nearly killed him. His stoma saved his life. There is a very good chance he will have these for the rest of his life and if he does, it will be my job to teach him a positive body image. (As its all parents jobs to do that). It will be my job to teach him to love himself, and his bags. Had he been a couple years older and been able to understand the ignorance the lady was spewing in line behind us, how much of a negative impact do you think that would have had on him?

See what that woman doesn’t understand is, when my son is healthy, he is no different than any other 2 year old. He runs, plays, swims and goes to daycare. When he’s healthy, you wouldn’t be able to look at him and know he’s had over 20 surgeries and procedures. You wouldn’t know that he’s got more ahead in his future. You wouldn’t know he gets painful home dilation and irrigation treatments twice a day every day. You wouldn’t know that every day a catheter is put into his stoma to “feed” it stool twice a day in the hopes of growing his colon. He’s my heart. He is so funny, and full of personality. He is sweet and loving and kind but also a little ball of fire.

Please be kind and choose your words wisely, especially should you choose to comment about something that is none of your business. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, and my son is winning his.”

To donate to baby Jameus’ ongoing medical care, please go to www.gofundme.com/babyjameus

Please remember everyone has their own story and journey that you will quite often know nothing about. Kindness goes a long way!

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  • wow that is a shocking attitude. i actually didn’t notice/realise what that was on the child at first but i certainly wasn’t disgusted by it. that lady should be ashamed of herself to think that she could say something so offensive to someone. The mother is a much better person, for sure

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  • What is repulsive is this woman’s attitude – not the beautiful, happy little boy in the picture.

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  • The woman probably got a shock when she saw them, but to comment at all was very rude and inconsiderate. She didn’t consider the feelings of your child either.

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  • The only repulsive and insensitive comment was made by the person that needs some education on stomas and there purpose.

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  • The woman who said that to the mother and child has no manners and is just a rude ugly person!

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  • I’m disgusted in the older lady’s comment especially a mature person would act like a grown up. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be with everything this little boy and family need to deal with on a daily basis. In life there are always people with their awful comments but there not worth your tears.

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  • what a horrible person, this little person has no control over this, it is a medical condition, how rude, some of the older generation really need to be re educated

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  • How could anyone think its appropriate to make that sort of comment? Next time someone shreaks “what is that” at your son just shreak back “omg what is that on your head, oh, its your face, why would you let anyone do that to you”.

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  • He is a beautiful little boy. People SHOULD mind their own business.

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  • Thanks for sharing your story. There sure isn’t anything repulsive about your son, however there is something very repulsive about the woman who made this comment. Don’t let these type of statements get to you. Everyone has their own story indeed, stories where we don’t know about. Wisdom, kindness and respect go a long way indeed !

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  • It’s just too easy to judge other people.

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  • Yes, random judgements are never helpful.

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