Australian model and actress Ellie Gonsalves has shared an honest list of the 100+ reasons she doesn’t want children, resulting in a wave of public backlash.
While the decision to have to children or remain childfree is a personal one, Ellie decided to share her extensive list of reasons behind her choice to help give others a voice.
“There’s thousands of people out there who feel very seen by this,” Ellie explained on Instagram. “And equally as many who feel very triggered by it. So, let’s talk about it in depth with no filter.”
Ellie’s list of reasons to remain childfree range from humorous: “A foetus can dig their nails into your uterus,” to the serious: “Children can inherit emotional trauma”.
Ellie explains that she had people try to talk her out of sharing the list, for fear of the criticism she’d receive, but she says she already gets hundreds of DMs telling her she’s horrible and broken.
“While some things on the list are satirical, many are serious and factual. Societal pressure when it comes to this topic are truly questionable and I believe unfair towards those with differing opinions and very rarely do we see a voice in support of this,” Ellie, who is married, explained.
The Wildlife Warriors Ambassador, who appeared on Big Brother VIP, says she’s had people question her decision for her entire 15 year relationship with her Ross Scutts, who she married earlier this year.
“Sometimes I can answer it and those asking are respectful … I can probably count those experiences on one hand.”
Here’s a look at Ellie’s list:
And as if to prove her point, her Instagram post was met with a slew of negative comments, calling Ellie ‘selfish’ and ‘vain’.
“Your ‘list’ on why you don’t want kids are all negative, but how about the Positives . The Positives completely outweigh. Of course it’s a person’s choice as to whether they want to be a Parent, but alot of your list were very vain reasons imo,” one person commented.
Another said: “Having children makes you selfless, all your thoughts are on this tiny person you bought into this world. The love is amazing. From the moment i saw my son i knew i would protect him no matter what. I believe that having a child has made me a better person. PS half of your reasons are ridiculous!”
“So much fear. Better not to have kids if that’s what you will instil into them anyway. Gosh, so many self centred people in this world.”
But there were also people reaching out with support.
“I’m with you. I’m 40, don’t have kids, and never wanted kids. I’ll be happy being a mum to fur babies. I had a coworker ask me once, “If you don’t have kids, who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” I remember thinking, (and still do), that that’s a selfish reason to HAVE kids.”
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