Taking those first wobbly steps into parenthood is a challenging, love-filled experience. There are sleepless nights, navigating feeding issues, and getting to know your new little person, and meeting their every need. Parenting for the first time during a pandemic though, is a new kind of challenging.
During the COVID-19 pandemic and these more recent lockdowns in Australia, there has been a lot of focus on parenting in the pandemic, particularly with school-aged kids with homeschooling, but giving birth during this pandemic is something many of us haven’t had to think about.
This is the reality for one mum, who recently shared her struggles on reddit. She shared, “I got pregnant 21 months ago. The pandemic started 18 months ago. My husband and I have been parents for 12 months. I never imagined it would turn out like this.”
Keeping a newborn healthy and safe in normal circumstances can be a daily concern, but during a pandemic it has caused a lot of stress for this new mum, “Relationships with our family are struggling because of Covid-19. They tell us “kids are fine” and you are the “99%”. But I will never risk being the 1%. I’m tired of being blamed for reality not matching expectations. I’m tired of being the bad guy for keeping my child safe. I’m tired of making hard decisions where no matter what I choose, someone will have something negative to say.”
“Being a new parent is hard. But being a new parent in a pandemic takes ‘hard’ to the next level”
Many responded to the new mum’s outcry with similar feelings of struggling, “I am so exhausted. You’re not alone.”
Another mum, with a baby the same age shared, “It’s a whole other level becoming a parent in a world like this, and I can’t deny that I’ve felt guilt at times bringing our daughter into this craziness.”
How are you finding parenting during the pandemic? Are you finding it hard?