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Mum admits to feeling aroused when feeding her child… and she is not alone!

Earlier this week you may have read the story (that we avoided like the plague) of Jennifer Mulford who revealed she breastfeeds her 36-year-old bodybuilder boyfriend for pleasure.

The admission was met with shock and disgust, but experts have confirmed that it’s actually not uncommon for mother’s to feel sexually aroused when feeding their child.

According to a study by the University of Sheffield, at least 30 per cent of women have experienced arousal caused by the hormone oxytocin, which is released when a woman breastfeeds.

Dr Karleen Gribble, an Associate Professor of Nursing and Midwifery at Western Sydney University, explained why this happens to women so often, reports The Daily Mail.

‘Oxytocin is the love hormone, and it is released when breastfeeding,’ Dr Gribble told Daily Mail Australia. ‘Women get surges of oxytocin when breastfeeding, which can cause a variety of feelings.’

‘The feeling can be sexual to a degree, it’s a matter of interpretation. Women do have feelings like those they have during sex when they breastfeed.’

Mother-of-two Clare said that she experienced arousal when breastfeeding both her children, one of whom is now a teenager and the other 10 years old.

‘When I breastfed my first child, it was a sensual feeling,’ she said. ‘The sensation was similar to sexual play. It was a hugely erotic experience.’

‘A couple of times I disassociated myself from the fact I had a baby at my breast. I would go off into a bit of fantasy and enjoy the feeling.’

Clare quickly clarifies that she didn’t feel sexual towards her child, but the feelings that breastfeeding invoked could be overwhelming.

‘In a way I felt able to treat it as a bit of foreplay, except I wasn’t thinking of my baby, only the feelings my body was feeling,’ she explained.

For Clare, she said that the feelings also helped her to ensure she continued to have a sexual relationship with her partner after the birth of her child. ‘For many women, it’s common to have your sexual relationship with your partner diminish after birth,’ she said.

‘The feelings when breastfeeding made me continue doing it, because it was so pleasurable, it nourished my baby, but it also kept my body womanly and kept feelings of sex alive when I was exhausted.’

‘Because my body was alive and awakened it helped keep my sexual relationship with my partner alive.’

Dr Gribble said that Clare’s feelings are quite normal for women. She explains the feelings are actually a good thing, as the release of oxytocin when breastfeeding makes women feel close to their child and is a normal part of parenting.

‘Mums who are concerned about the feelings they have when breastfeeding shouldn’t be, they’re actually very common.’

‘They’re different feelings to when you’re actually having sex. You’re not feeling sexual towards your baby, you’re just feeling things that can also be felt during sex.’

Viola Polomeno, has written about the taboo and conducted studies on the topic, saying it can cause women to move on to bottle feeding their children because of the arousal.

‘This is a normal phenomenon. Yet, mothers may feel guilty if they have these feelings,’ Ms Polomeno wrote. ‘Consequently, some may decide to stop breastfeeding.’

Did you have a similar experience to Clare?

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  • I’ve never felt or thought of it as a sexual thing.

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  • Very brave to speak out honestly about her experience, as I am sure sadly she will get criticism by people who love to judge others.

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  • Such an interesting story. It is good to let people know that it is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

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  • I have always wondered if this was a thing. Especially since breast play can be a massive part of sex.
    I’m glad someone’s talking about it.

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  • I fed all three of my kids and cant say that I found this with any of them.
    I strongly suspect that many people that are against public breast feeding have this idea that the female is feeding and feeling sexually aroused at the same time. This was mentioned to me once when i spoke to a Male about why he found it so offensive to have females feeding in public.
    I think for most of us there is nothing like this at all. Our feeding our babies is at first a bonding thing and its very loving but also a bit of a nightmare to start with having to deal with cracked nipples, sore boobs and sleepless nights. Then it simply becomes something that we do and its quiet time with bub where you get to sit and they are happily calm and making wonderful eye contact.


    • I agree with your comments, it is a time of bonding for mum and bub.

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  • No – did not experience this at all and do not know anyone that experienced this when breast feeding.

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  • Not at all. I didn’t feel anything like that

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  • Not with my first child, but I did experience this with subsequent children. My midwife said it was not abnormal, so I didn’t stress over it.

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  • just makes me feel sleepy

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  • I was only able to breast feed for a couple of days and it was extremely painful – so definitely a different experience for me.

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  • I’ve heard the opposite can be true too…breastfeeding can also reduce the desire for sex. It’s amazing what our bodies can do!

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  • I’m glad I didn’t experience this. It sounds a little weird.

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  • Not at all!! I was to tired to stay awake half the time let alone get aroused.

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  • I’ve heard a few women say this. I didn’t but I did find once I stopped breastfeeding it (my breasts) were more sensitive to arousal

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