Why do mum’s need to even point this stuff out anymore?! Please just bite your tongue before letting that remark out.

Chaos to Calm Consultancy is a page by Chrissie Davies, a Behaviour Consultant.

A recent post on her page shares an experience at her local Bunnings with another lady.

“To the lady at my local Bunnings who told me my child looked VERY tired after he had just woken up from a nap…& that I was a ‘mean mummy’ because I wouldn’t let her give my daughter a balloon this time…I mean seriously we go nearly every weekend & I chase that damn balloon all over the bloody car park!

You wouldn’t know that my newly adopted son is not sleeping very well & that he is possibly grieving for his foster carers.

You also couldn’t know that actually I am the furtherest from ever being mean to my children. But that’s ok- I will try not to take it personally because you don’t know us…but sheesh some days I wish people would just really quit making comments to parents that make them feel like shite! #bunningsladypipedown #keepyourthoughtstoyourself #meanmummymyass #balloonsarejustsobloodyannoyinganyway”

She continues in comments “It was the best I’ve felt in about two weeks! It has been such a hectic time! The sun was shining & we were all out of the house together…so luckily I didn’t let it get to me for too long!”

Mean mummy? Seriously? That is not a cool thing to say to any parent. Especially one you don’t know.

You have no idea what is happening any given day in a mum’s life. Sometimes that innocent comment you might mean in jest, could just be enough to push a stressed and tired mummy over the edge.

Just don’t!

Share your comments below.

Image via shutterstock

We may get commissions for purchases made using links in this post. Learn more.
  • People can be very annoying indeed with their remarks ! Just don’t let them get to you and shake it off. I always remind my kids to THINK before they speak. Is it True, is it Helpful, is it Inspiring, is it Needed or is it Kind what they want to say…when not, then keep it for yourself. Of course we need to set the example ourselves :) Seems some adults need some education to, hehehe


  • Would be nice for society to be a support to parents, instead of putting them down. Glad you didn’t let it ruin the rest of your day. How lucky for children are to have a mummy that is able to have boundaries and teach resilience.


  • It’s just undermining someone to call her “mean” in front of her kids.


  • I agree she should keep her thoughts to herself!


  • People can be rude, that’s why you just ignore them.


  • People just need to mind their own business and watch their own actions first.


  • How rude. How dare anyone say that. You don’t know what’s going on and it’s not your place to say


  • I am a mean Auntie. I have actually been told by the eldest child that I’m mean, that I won’t let them do anything. I won’t let the kids do what I know they are not allowed to do at the parents’ specific request or what I know they aren’t allowed to do at home or the grandparents’ home. The more consistency they have the better off they will be – no confusion. If they are “grounded” for some reason I stick to the instructions. I don’t believe in the attitude that they may be too tough and go behind their parents’ back. I know that is definitely the reason why they ask us to mind them in some cases as they know others don’t follow requests at all. That’s probably why I am the mean Auntie. We openly discuss any issues so we are “on the same page”. Occasionally their parents forget to tell us of new issues that they want deterred and back-up support with.

    • Also if you say “yes” too often they then expect to get something every time, then if you need to say “no” you are met with a tantrum which is noticed by others. You also end up with a very spoilt child who then thinks…..money grows on trees”. We were advised not to start putting the kids (there was 4 of them)on rides in the shopping centres. Their Grandpa was doing it every time they went into a shopping centre, even if they went into more than one. He didn’t stop to think how much he was spoiling them, nor did he think about the parents or others being able to afford it. Luckily we only minded two. (He was doing it with 2 families of grandchildren.)


  • I think it’s ok for a friend to jest such a thing in certain circumstances but definitely not to someone you don’t know. Very rude!


Post a comment
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

Add a photo
Your MoM account

Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your comment and join MoM:

You May Like


Looks like this may be blocked by your browser or content filtering.

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating