A new dad says he can’t understand why his wife is so upset that he plays video games after work to ‘decompress’.
The 37-year-old dad works five days a week as a service manager for a high volume dealer, and says he leaves for work at 6am, and doesn’t walk back in the door until 6pm. His 33-year-old wife is a stay at home mum to their 18-month-old.
” My wife gets upset when I get home and after eating dinner want to get a couple of rounds of Call Of Duty in,” he explained on reddit. “(She) thinks it’s absolutely criminal that I want to get some decompress time at the end of the day.
“My daughter is still in the ‘mummy all the time’ phase so she prefers to spend more time with my wife than I. Usually when I get home I will eat dinner, do whatever honey-do’s she has for me, and then play for a little. After I’m done I will join them and spend time with my family which usually is her watching a movie/show and I reading the same book to my daughter 10 times lol.”
But he claims his wife isn’t happy with the way he interacts with her and their daughter during their ‘family time’.
“My wife says that even when I’m chilling with them I spend too much time on my phone. While we are all hanging out if my daughter is asking for my attention I will stop what I’m doing and do whatever she’s asking me to do. Whenever she wants to go back to mummy I will browse Twitter or reddit since I usually have absolutely zero interest in what she is watching.
“She accuses me of being absent/not present since I don’t focus all my free time on her and the baby. Also side note she is currently 20 weeks pregnant.”
The dad wanted to know if he was being the a**hole in the situation, and the reddit responders let him know that they think he is.
“You may work 12 hours a day but you’re a dad 24 hours a day,” one person commented.
“You have four competing interests: your family, your job, sleep, and your personal time. Right now you are giving 1/2 of your time to your job. Then you have to divide the remainder of your time between sleep, family and yourself. You can’t really take much time from sleep – I’ll assume you sleep about 8 hours. Now you have four hours for yourself and your family. Take an hour for yourself. Three hours for your family. Is that enough time? Are you happy being a father and husband for only 3 hours a day?”
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