In the beginning it was just “me”, I met my husband then it became “we”, after having kids now it is “us”.
Finding the time to spend as just “we” is often hard.
There seems to be so many hurdles; kids, work commitments, social engagements, sickness, tiredness, other family responsibilities, the list goes on.
Remember what things were like before you had kids, what did you like to do as a couple? For most of us that can be a distant memory.
It is important to keep that spark in the relationship. Even if you are too tired, too busy or just can’t be bothered to get out of the house, organise a babysitter and get out there and have FUN!
I know sometimes I am too sleep deprived to know the meaning of the word fun.
Reconnecting as a ‘couple’ on a regular basis can help nurture your relationship from both the emotional and physical levels (and yes physical can mean getting ‘physical’ if you are lucky of course!)
The best part of date night is the opportunity to remind yourself that you are not just “Mummmmmy!!!!”.
There are so many things to do, but to make it a little more fun too, make the choice of the night ‘a lucky dip’!
Here is a little idea, take a box or container, get some small pieces of paper (in my case they are little red hearts) and use these to write fun date day/night activities on them:
- Romantic dinner
- A movie – hubby’s choice
- Walk along the beach
- Cooking class
- Sporting event
- Dessert only date
- Bush walk
- Breakfast by the beach
If your date night is once a month, pull out a piece of paper two weeks prior just to give you time to book and organize a babysitter, and then enjoy!
I know it can be easier said than done, but give it a go, your relationship will LOVE you for it.
Do you make time for date night?
For a little bit of a humorous take on Date Night, read my previous blog post “Romance 101”.