Hindsight is a luxury we don’t have, but we can reflect on what we’d do different and make a change now – it’s never too late. What would you say to your 16-year-old self if you’d been able?
This is my letter to me.
Dear 16 year old me,
Go love your mum, tell her you do, be with her, show her the adult you’re going to grow into. Because you’re not going to get the chance for her to see it. She’ll be gone in 11 years from now.
Don’t rush; you’ll be doing that your whole life.
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Look at those girls around you. They’ll be your friends for life. Look after them.
Be a little crazy, you know when you feel that adrenalin charge when you do it sometimes, do it more, it’s fun.
Don’t worry about what you look like; it will get a little better.
Don’t just think you have to get married because everyone else is. It will only end in tears.
Go have some fun. You know what I mean. More fun. Do it.
Go exploring, get brave, be adventurous, otherwise you’ll be in your 40’s and go “uh-oh, better go exploring, better be brave, better have some adventures.”
Be confident, just because you’re surrounded by gorgeousness, doesn’t mean you’re not.
Smile more. See how those that do seem happier. Watch and learn girl, watch and learn.
Just to warn you, your dad can be just like your mother moans about. Don’t get a surprise about that ok?
Your sister will become your best friend. Crazy I know but it will happen.
Even though you didn’t have the most conventional role models, you will be a good mum. Just trust your instincts and do what feels right.
Don’t be a victim. Sadly, (and I’m sorry about this), but you’ll probably have some reason to be. Don’t be. Just be positive and use those experiences. You’ll be so much happier for it.
There are so many people far worse off than you. You may not know this yet, but there are. Try and help them. If you can’t, then be empathetic and don’t judge. Ok, that should be a separate line on it’s own.
You are in control of your life, don’t just wait for it to happen, make it happen – I know that sounds like a cliché, but sometimes those clichés can be so wise.
Sometimes you’ll feel that you’re at the edge of something scary and wonderful and you’re too scared to jump off. Please jump.
Don’t start drinking Diet Coke. If you do, it will take you years and your 8 year old to get you off the stuff. Just don’t start.
Wear sunblock. Never baby oil, and never baby oil on the face in the snow.
Don’t get in the car with people who’ve been drinking. Trust your gut, you know it is wrong.
Remember how quickly you grew up and away from your parents. Remember when you look at your kids, try and keep pace.
Be someone, be something, don’t just be nothing. You are better than that.
Lots of love
What would you say to your 16-year-old self if you had the chance?