August 14, 2019

Dear teacher, I need to tell you something important about me…

Dear Teacher,

I love being in your class. I love learning and I have lots of fun everyday with you and my friends but I need to tell you something important about me. This is about my lunch box, the food I bring to school and how I eat each day.

Please don’t assume…
– that because I have a larger body and I’m shovelling food into my mouth that I’m a glutton; I just want to go outside and play.

– just because I have ‘lots’ of packaged foods and that I eat in a way that seems ‘unhealthy’ to you, doesn’t mean my parents don’t care or love me. This might be their way of showing me their love.

– that because I eat lots of processed foods that my parents are neglectful, maybe they don’t know how to cook or it’s all they know. They may be having a tough time in life at the moment and not able to afford better food.

– that because I have a very limited number of foods in my lunch box each day that my parents are lazy; little did you know that I had a tongue tie and this has affected my ability to chew and my feeding development.

Please don’t…
– tell me that I need to eat everything in my lunch box; my body is pretty good at telling me when I’m full and my tummy hurts when I eat too much.

– make me eat the ‘healthy food’ first; my parents have given me a choice of food for a reason and I can decide what to eat and how much.

– judge the fact that I eat lots of white or bland looking foods, this is all I will eat and my parents are doing their best to introduce new foods but I reject them.
– teach me that some foods are bad and some foods are good; I get really confused and think that I’ll get sick if I eat all those bad foods.

– teach me that sugar is bad; I don’t understand how something can be so bad when it tastes so good. How can I be such a bad person if I eat some lollies, cake or chocolate?

– take my food away or throw it out because it doesn’t comply with the school healthy eating policy. Have you ever thought that your policy may be flawed and more harmful than helpful? I feel it’s more important that we learn more about how ALL FOODS can be ENJOYED as part of a HEALTHY BALANCED DIET.

– send notes home to my parents about the contents of my lunch box. Do you realise that my parents may not be incharge of packing my lunch box? This is my job. These notes can create fear in me eating certain kinds of foods and lead to catastrophic thinking as well as a poor relationship with food long term.

– reward me with food for doing something good in my learning. This makes me eat when I’m not hungry. Did you know that this can lead to me forming a habit of rewarding myself with food later in life, with my body misunderstanding an emotional connection with food and actual hunger?

– teach me that eating too much food causes obesity and fatness. It makes me feel sad when people talk about body shapes and sizes that are inheritable. All bodies are good bodies.

– teach me about calories and that the food I eat needs to be burnt off. I eat food for nourishment, enjoyment, satisfaction and survival. My body is not a bomb calorimeter, it’s a living thing that is making new cells to help me grow and learn.

BUT PLEASE…
– teach me to love food by helping me learn about it in a non-judgemental way.

– help me to learn about my senses and how I can use them to learn more about food.

– show me where food comes from.

– keep my learning experiences about food neutral yet positive. Talk to me about food in a matter of fact way without labelling it good, bad, healthy and unhealthy. These labels are hard to understand.

– teach me to love my body and what it can do.

– teach me that all bodies are special and they are made to work in their own way and move in a way that feels good.

Thank you for reading my letter. The more that we talk about this, the more we will learn to appreciate that health and food literacy needs to be addressed in a sensitive and supportive way.

Sincerely,
A student who loves food.

This post originally appeared on Embracing Nutrition and has been shared with full permission

Kelly is passionate about changing people’s thinking about healthy eating and healthy relationships with food.

Kelly also recently shared a blog on lunchbox shaming saying, “As someone who has studied child development and now childhood nutrition, I implore a pull back on the approach of lunchbox policing and to reconsider the purpose of such policies.”

Read more – This Teacher Has Had Enough of the Lunch Box Shaming!

Share your comments below.

Kelly is a primary teacher and nutritionist, based in the north-western suburbs of Melbourne. She blogs at Embracing Nutrition. Or you can find her on Facebook.


  • Loved reading this article and it really was food for thought.

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  • I believe we just need better education around balanced diets. For parents and students.

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  • Just have a balanced eating way

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  • Number 1 tip: Communicate with your schools teachers – they will be so appreciative and you will have an amazing relationship with them in support of your child’s education.

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  • Not good to judge people by what they pack in the lunch box but understand the need to keep a check on those that have ridiculously unhealthy choices.

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  • I see both sides. I know that my homemade cupcakes have healthy substitutions, but the teacher doesn’t. At the same time, some kids turn up with half an old Happy Meal. That really does cross a line if it happens regularly – kids need nutrition to learn. But there is a right way and a wrong way to tactfully have a conversation with a parent.

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  • Love this! Some teachers are parents too. What will they feel if other teachers do the same to their kids.

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  • I absolutely love this! It needs to be sent to every school

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  • My son is so fussy and I worry that his lunchbox could appear unhealthy to a teacher but I remind myself that they’re only seeing a glimpse of what he eats in a full day and over the course of a week they really wouldn’t know all the other meals he has at home. I try to pack a variety of items but he is very happy to eat the same foods each day at school.

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  • Grateful for the wonderful teachers at my children’s schools who have never passed judgement… safe to assume that it’s definitely no ones concern but child & parent!

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  • I love dos not a fan of a long list of don’ts.

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  • I am not looking forward to packing lunchboxes when my son goes to school!!

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  • So glad my kids have now finished schooling
    Those dreaded Lunch Boxes
    So hard to know what to put in them
    Half the time the food comes back home

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  • I love this article. This is exactly how I feel about teachers policing lunchboxes. I don’t believe in good or bad foods, I believe in everything in moderation to allow the learning of self led good eating habits. Who is a teacher to say that this mindset is wrong?

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  • This is really interesting, my daughter starts school next year and it gives me insight to packing of lunchboxes and what happens at school

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