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After Sarah’s baby girl Evie passed away she continued to pump her milk so she could help out her best friend.

Sarah wasn’t going to be able to use her breast milk because the baby girl she was carrying wasn’t expected to live very long after birth. She asked her friend, Lauren Casper, who was adopting a baby girl, if she would like to have her breast milk.

Lauren said on a blog post on Parenting Today, that Sarah’s expressions, body language, and voice all told her that this was something she had thought about for a long time and that it was a big brave thing for her to ask.

Lauren writes, “it was July and we had just sent in all the paperwork to adopt our daughter Arsema a few weeks earlier. As we waited for our dates to travel to Ethiopia I began nesting. This particular morning I was replacing the floor in our master bathroom while I waited for Sarah’s text. She was going in for her 20-week ultrasound and I was secretly hoping for the news to come back that she was having a girl. I was dreaming about our daughters being great friends, just like their big brothers are. The text came… girl… but there were complications.”

She continues on… “Within the next several hours we knew that the baby girl Sarah was carrying would not be able to live outside of the womb. I brought Arsema home in early October and a couple weeks later Sarah came to me with the question…

“I was wondering if you would like to have my breast milk after Evie is born. I thought maybe you could use it to feed Arsema. I don’t know how long I’ll pump or how much I’ll be able to produce, but I’d love to give it to you if you want it.”

We both cried. This was a gift that meant so much to both of us. Sarah was longing to do something meaningful and in a way her feeding my daughter helped heal a tiny piece of her broken heart. She knew one of the painful losses of infertility and adoption was my inability to breastfeed my children. They each had such a rough start in life and I wish I could have been able to at least give them that. I am incredibly grateful for the existence of infant formula because without it neither of my children would be alive and thriving today. We do know, however, that breast milk is best for babies. I think most mothers who aren’t able to give that to their children (for any number of reasons) feel a sense of loss even while being incredibly grateful for the option of formula.

Evie Caris was born in November and lived for four hours surrounded by the people who love her most. We kissed her face, took in every inch of her beauty, and then Sarah sang her into heaven.

A week later Sarah came over to my house carrying a cooler filled with small plastic bags of milk. And every week for a few months she would continue to drop off breast milk for my daughter. Each time I filled Arsema’s bottle and sat in the rocker to feed her I would think about Sarah and Evie. I would pray for Sarah’s broken heart and thank God for the gift Sarah had so selflessly given me and my daughter.

I wish I could have breastfed my children. Sarah wishes she could have fed her daughter (and so do I… oh so do I). But life doesn’t always make sense. When everything is broken and mixed up, we have to create our own beauty from the pieces. Sarah feeding my daughter when she couldn’t feed hers is a beautiful example of love and generosity and grace in the midst of heart-wrenching loss.”

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  • What a beautiful and selfless gift to give to a friend despite suffering such loss.

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  • Absolutely beautiful how these two mums could mean something to eachother at this time. I so can imagine that this act helped Sarah in her grieve. Bless you Sarah & family when you deal with your loss !

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  • I love that there are selfless, generous, helpful people in the world no matter what life throws their way. Keep being strong and wonderful Sarah and may bubby rest in peace with our gracious heavenly Father

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  • A touching story and a beautiful gesture from Sarah.Sorry for your loss of little Evie.

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  • What a beautiful thing for Sarah to do. RIP little Evie

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  • How amazingly selfless. What a beautiful soul. RIP baby Evie xx

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  • I think this was a beautiful way for Sarah to focus on something positive at such a sad time.

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  • This made me cry. I know the pain of not being able to feed a lost child. So generous.

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  • What strong, beautiful women – full of love and courage. The true spirit of friendship and love.

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  • What a wonderful gesture. Sarah is surely a strong and sweet woman. So sorry about Evie though! :-(


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  • A most beautiful (sad) story. My heart goes out to Sarah. Thank you for sharing x

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