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Do you feel restless sometimes in bed, because the vivid image of you shouting at your little one this morning for spilling a bowl of soup over your new carpet, does not let you fall asleep?

Do you cringe at the memory about that day in the park, when you lost sight of your son for a minute, and noticed all the other mums’ sympathetic and yet, somewhat patronising looks on their faces, when you found him, hiding behind the bench?

Do you feel guilty about appointing the tablet, today, to do the parenting for the entire afternoon, because the date for submitting an important report is so overdue.

Do you worry if you have given your toddler too many cookies at snack time?

It has been a while since you read James a bedtime story, as you feel exhausted by 9 pm most days and you are remorseful, again, are you not?

You are so sorry about snubbing your teenage daughter for her crazy choice to go out in a rather provocative outfit.

Do you have regrets about never finding the time to play with your kids, because of all the washing up and cleaning you have to do?

Do you cry sometimes for neglecting the emotional needs of your disabled child, while trying heroically to tend to his/her physical needs?

We are all guilty of these sins, but we don’t have to feel guilty about them.

Our children love us as we are. They forgive us almost everything! What they need is our reassurance that we are and will always be there for them, no matter what.

So if you’ve had a bad day today, just forgive yourself and show your child that you love them. There’s always tomorrow, when you can try to make it up to them.

Apologise for shouting and explain to your little one how tired you have been.

Forgive the mums in the park. It is very likely that they were oblivious, at the time, to the way they looked at you.

Your report has been sent. Now, take an interest in what game your boy has been playing on his tablet and promise him an exciting venture at the weekend.

Give your teenage daughter a hug and offer her one of your nice shirts, she has always wanted or suggest to go shopping together soon.

You cannot ignore the emotional world of your child! Relax! You are living in it!

You are not a superhuman, so don’t beat yourself up about it!

You have many roles in life. And you play different roles for your child at different times in their life. You are their guide and their friend, their teacher and advisor. You are always their guard and protector. And you are their companion and confidante.

Above all, you are their mother! Be proud of it, because you are doing a great job!

And this is worth celebrating!

SHARE your thoughts with us in the comments below.

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  • A great article, and yes, we are all mothers, and we all do the same as described. I love being a parent, and I know I’m not perfect, but I do try my best, and I try learn and grow as a parent as time goes on. I recently had the benefit of learning about mindfulness, and this has helped me enormously to be a better mother, wife, friend, work colleague.

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  • Thank you, really needed this today.

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  • Thank you. Sometimes I need a reminder, just like many other mothers out there.

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  • thanks I really needed to read this. seeing mums take kids to school looking beautiful with 3 gorgeous kids, I struggle with 2

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  • I think we all worry whether we’re doing a Good enough job.

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  • I try not to feel guilty. Quite often my son has moved on with things and is so not fussed by things. Otherwise, we talk it through. We are all just doing the best we can, and should not get caught up in guilt. Just do what’s best for you. That’s all we can do.

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  • You can only do your best and that is enough.

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  • I keep rereading this article, I like it a lot!

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  • I sure wish I could give sometimes more undivided attention, play more or be at times more patient but there is so much what you can do and we all are limited and make mistakes. I don’t feel guilty about it, kids understand a lot when you explain and when you’re able to say sorry.

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  • The guilt is always going to be there because we wear many hats and serve many masters that compete for our attention.

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  • a well written article. so spot on!

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  • We are all human with deep feelings of our children, there’s no right or wrong of not being perfect, many have said it, a perfect mum – it doesn’t exist.

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  • None of us are perfect and it’s hard sometimes not to feel guilty. But oh what joy when one of your kids tell you what a great job you’ve done with rearing them all and how happy they are with their life and it’s because of YOU.

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  • Being a parent is the toughest job in the world! Every now and then things drive us over the edge, it’s just how you react to it which makes a difference. And as the article says (and Anne of Green Gables) – tomorrow is a fresh day with no mistakes.

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  • Guilt really is a waste of time and drains all positive thoughts and energy.

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