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Just hours after giving birth this young mother was told the horrifying news that her partner and father to her baby boy had committed suicide.

Patrick Foresi, 42, went missing on May 30, weeks before Nicole Astill, 29, was due to give birth to their first child, reports Daily Mail.

The boilermaker had a history of anxiety and depression, Ms Astill told the Gold Coast Bulletin, so when police walked into her hospital room her worst fears were confirmed.

Ms Astill recalls the last morning she saw her partner of four years, as he walked out of their Tweed Heads home.

‘He just woke up in a mood. It’s as though he knew what he was going to do now that I look back,’ she said.

Ms Astill said that while the 42-year-old was excited about becoming a father, he felt pressure to provide for his growing family.

“Stressed about money in particular, with the baby coming he wanted to be able to provide everything for us,” she said.

“He believed that the man of the house should look after his family, he was old fashioned.

“His whole life he was used to earning great money but in the last 12 months, especially, he found it difficult to find work around here.

“He didn’t like to struggle.

“Some weeks we didn’t know how we would afford our rent and when things like this happened he suffered from severe anxiety that led him into a depressive state.

“I mean there were other things in his life he suffered from, but mainly he just felt like a failure.”

She said that the 42-year-old had been used to earning good money, but that had changed in the last 12 months and he had found it difficult to find work in the area.

A month after Mr Foresi went missing, his body was found in Mebbin National Park in Northern NSW.

Ms Astill said Mr Foresi had a name in mind for their baby before he died, but he didn’t want to tell her before the birth.

She decided to name him Henry Patrick Foresi, after the father he would never meet.

‘Pat didn’t want his name included in the baby’s name, but it only felt right,’ she told the Gold Coast Bulletin.

Ms Astill said Mr Foresi struggled with his mental health but avoided talking to people about it, battling his sickness behind closed doors.

“He was a sick man, not many people would have seen it, a lot of it was only noticeable behind closed doors,” she said.

“Mental health is a serious issue, especially for men.

“They don’t need to be too proud to get help, even if that help is by talking to a mate.

“I’m coping. By taking each day as it comes. The baby is a great distraction.”

Heartbreaking. Our thoughts are with family and friends.

If you or someone you know needs help contact Lifeline on 131 114 or BeyondBlue on 1300 224 636

 

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  • What a heartbreaking story indeed ! My heart goes out to Ms Astill and her baby, who has to grow up without a father now. Sending blessings their way !!
    So sad Mr Foresi battled his sickness behind closed doors and wasn’t able to ask for and get the help he needed, years of suffering alone where it might not have been necessary…

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  • I’m so sorry she had to go through this. I know what it’s like to feel the way he did. I just wish he had been able to get help. He was not useless but this is how society makes us feel now. God bless them both and I hope she gets plenty of support for herself and her baby.

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  • Hard for the mother and a pity her partner didn’t seek help.

    I had to identify my partner’s body two days after the birth of my child, so can understand how devastated she would be to receive this news. Don’t know which is the hardest.

    Hope you have family and friends who will be there to assist in your darker days – and do reach out for help when you need it.

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  • This is just devastating news for the woman and her baby.

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  • oh I am so sorry that she had to go through this. What a difficult thing to hear after just giving birth to their son. May her partner now be resting in peace. what a beautiful name for their son to.

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  • So sorry to here this, no one should go threw that my heart goes out to her and her little boy,

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  • This also happened to me, except my partner left to go away to find fruit picking work when I was four months pregnant. Previously we\\\’d had time apart so I thought I would still see him again. Just a couple of days after having a home birth to a little girl in Alice Springs, his sister rang me to tell me he had been found in his car near the River Murray having taken his life. I don\\\’t even know how I got through those first days. We also had a four year old son. Our daughter is 16 now, it was hard when she asked me for his death certificate out of the blue one day, for she came to this awful thought that he done it because I was pregnant with her. I\\\’ve had to reassure her that no, he had a mental illness, he\\\’d suffered with severe depression from a horrific upbringing and being adopted then made a ward of the state. Even today his sister is still trying to get justice from for the adopted father who abused them both. I pray that day will still come.

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  • This poor lady. My thoughts are with you x
    This is why we need to keep talking about mental illness

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  • That is devastating news! My thoughts and prayers are with her and bubby at this time. It would have taken alot for her to share this openly to raise awareness. Definitely a message to be shared to let our Men know it’s to talk about feelings in life’s pressures. RIP Patrick

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  • This is so sad. It seems to be getting more prevalent which is saddening.

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  • I am so sad for your loss dear lady. Raising children together is difficult but I do hope that your family gets behind you and strongly supports you. I wish all the best for you, your new son and your lives together. May you find happiness, joy and all sufficiency for your lives. Blessings.

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  • This story is just heartbreaking, She will now have to celebrate her childs birthday every year along with the morning of her partner on that same day… I cannot imagine going through that and I pray that she support around on those heartbreaking days xx

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  • Suicide is far too common these days.

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  • This is so sad!

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  • I am glad she was told after her baby’s birth, not before.
    She would have been so upset that contentrating on what she had to do would have been too difficult.
    My deepest sympathy to the new Mother, her baby and other close relatives.

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