There is a person in your Parent’s Group. They’re not only new to the class, but new to the whole parenting gig. Although they appear incredibly fit, they are also quite overwhelmed. You haven’t been to the gym in goodness only knows how long – but, do you think you are strong enough to pick them up?

A work colleague is battling an unjust situation. They are completely defeated. Crumpled. And they need help getting up. Are you strong enough to lift them?

Your best friend is hurt. As kids, you could probably pick her up with little effort! But what would it take for you to help her up now?

How Strong Do You Have To Be To Give Strength To Others?

What fitness level does a person have to be at to be able to extend kindness and compassion to another human being?

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How many successful Transformation Tuesday’s, Flashback Friday’s or Gym check in’s does an individual need to complete before they can successfully lift another’s soul with nothing more than an understanding smile at the checkout as you help someone pick up all the groceries their little one just threw out of the trolley with no judgment passed whatsoever.

The greatest growth comparison I could ever show you doesn’t come from weight lost or muscle gained, but in admitting wholeheartedly that once upon a time, many years ago, I was a selfish person who mainly concentrated on myself.

Becoming a mother has been the most humbling experience in my whole life. And I love it.

I May Have Been Fit But Wasn’t Strong

A decade ago I believed that my strength came from training hard and getting as physically fit as I possibly could be. Not that there is anything wrong with this, but to be honest I probably would not have had what it took to be brave enough to pick another soul up, or even know where to start.

To help a person smile at difficult times or to focus on how incredible their future is going to be once troubling circumstances pass. Just to offer a stranger in need a few positive words of encouragement when they have nothing but negativity to offer themselves.

Realistically I probably still don’t have everything it takes to lift a person’s spirit – but it’s my goal. Something I strive for. Every single day.

That’s the fitness level that I want to achieve.

I want to be able to look in the mirror and know that I am capable of leaving someone in better spirits than they were when I met them.

The best part is that if I ever reach my goal I won’t even need to celebrate with any form of flashback photography because I will see my success reflected in the humility and compassion that my children have towards others.

Often feats of great physical human strength can seem unattainable, besides this, I suppose not everyone wants to be able to bench press 300kgs nor might they have the time to train for it.

Spreading kindness, helping those in need, volunteering, feeding others in whatever capacity you are capable of…

The Really Signs Of Being Strong

To give of yourself, especially your time, takes a mammoth amount of strength. The kind you don’t need to train consistently for. It’s just a choice that some incredible human beings make and I bet the person reading this is one of them right now, whether you realise it or not, I am sure you would choose compassion over anything else, and that’s all it takes – the desire, determination and commitment to chose kindness.

I bet you could lift a person’s soul with your eyes closed and still have enough stamina to do it all over again, because that’s just how strong you are!

Do you feel strong enough to lift up another person (mentally). Tell us in the comments below.

  • I get told by friends, I’m strong but honestly I don’t feel it most of time.


  • My friends tell me that I have always been able to lift them out of their problems and have managed to cope with my own. They know they can count on me but were amazed when I just had to rant one day, then I apologised to them because everything had just got on top of me for a moment. My husband has been ill for quite a while, found out my brother in law has dementia, my brother had just died from this, one of my daughters wants ‘out’ from her marriage, and my sister in law had just been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. Yes I am strong and I lift people up, but this was one day when I felt I couldn’t go on with another problem. Back on an even keel again and managing with all these problems still going on.


  • I am a natural born giver, queen of hearts!! I will probably give my last dollar away if I knew it would make a difference. Life isn’t just about focusing on my little tribe I made, I feel like it’s all.about connecting and even when I’m struggling just talking and sharing to other mums and really showing how raw and drained you are boosts us all up. We are all in this together. This parenting gig is so hard but having this strength to boost someone else up could easily be done over a coffee, popping into their home to check up on them. Having someone say hey I notice you and I’m concerned speaks volumes!


  • Every day is different. But I do try a little bit of kindness in every day, probably more so to those who would have a lot of customers in a day and may just be treated as part of a transaction. But honestly most days I don’t even have the strength for myself.


  • I don’t have enough for anyone other than my kids as the day is spent at work and the free time is spent with them


  • I don’t have anyone who requires me to be strong for them and pick them up. Just my kids, and I love them so much, it’s not an effort to support them


  • My late husband was always able to lift me up and I’m very lucky to have people there for me when and if I need them. I used to be able to help others but find it difficult these days. I do my best though and let them know I’m always here to listen and not judge if they need me.


  • Yes. I’m always checking in and trying to lift up my closest friends, as they do for me.


  • I always try to lift my friends by being honest with how my life is going.


  • Interesting article, and so true


  • I need someone to help me with that!


  • Sure I am :)


  • It’s harder than it looks and a lot of us never show it


  • there are so many different kinds and ways of being strong…whatever works for you is the best


  • Good reading. The experiences I’ve had have made me mentally & physically stronger. And I feel the more I use my strength of mind , like a muscle it just gets fitter. ( :


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