We are who we are because of the five people we spend most of our time with. We are the average of these five people, and they directly influence who we are and what we do. Whether they are family, friends or work colleagues, they are our greatest influences.

When we take note of these people and their personalities and traits, we can start to see if they are a positive or negative influence on us. But more importantly we start to realise how important those five people can be in shaping our future.

Here are some points you should think about to ensure you are surrounded by the right people for who you want to be, and what you want to achieve:

Are these five people having a positive influence on you?

The people we spend most of our time with will influence our mindset, our eating habits, our health, our attitude and even how happy we are. Ever find yourself beaming with happiness after spending time with certain friends, whilst others can leave you feeling completely flat. Those closest to us should have a positive impact on our lives, and you should have the same influence on theirs.

Do they bring out the best in you?

Are you proud of the person you are when you spend time with friends? Do you find yourself not particularly liking some of the things you do? Do they bring out the best in you? Do you bring out the best in them? You want to be spending your time with people who are going to support you to truly shine, and be the most authentic version of you.

Do they have the same goals and aspirations as you?

To achieve your goals in life you need to be surrounded by people who have similar thoughts and ideals. You need people that will support, encourage and believe in you. If you surround yourself with people who continually say, this can’t be done, or that’s too hard, how do you think this will affect your mindset? And do you think you will achieve those goals?

Are there people you could spend more time with?

Are there people who hold the same beliefs as you and are on the same path as you? Is it worth making a change so that you could be spending more time with them? Ultimately we want the people around us to support us to grow and we want to do the same for them.

As you start to notice the impact of those around you, you may begin to notice that some people are not a positive influence on your life. The good thing is that you have the power to control how much they influence you. You choose whom you want to spend your time with, thus truly influencing who you are today and who you want to be in the future!

Who has a positive impact on your life? SHARE with us in the comments below.

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  • My family and close friends a.k.a. my nearest and dearest.


  • This is a little terrifying as we are all a little crazy haha


  • You are the company you keep!


  • Yes, this is why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who are loving, supportive and going to bring you up, instead of down <3


  • I surround myself with people that support and also challenge me to be the best I can be.


  • I’m thankful for beautiful people in my life. There are less positive relationships too from which I learn as well. I’m trying to practice what I preach to my kids ” to be kind to people who’re unkind, they need our kindness the most”…


  • Don’t think I have 5 people who are close to me anymore – it’s just hubby and me.


  • Thanks for the great post …positive thinking and surrounding your self with positive people really does improve ones health.

    • It is most definitely does improve your health and overall well being. Positive people raise you up and negative people pull you down.


  • My husband, my dear friend Robyn, my boss/friend Anna, … then there are those whose negative behaviour influences me on how I don’t want to behave.


  • This is very true, and why I prefer to talk to wonderful people from across the world on the internet than have negative people in person. It’s amazing how your environment has such an important impact on your mind and body.


  • The 5 I spend most of my time with would be my 3 daughters how are always fill of love and laughter.
    My very dear friend in the US who I talk to on voice for several hours every day and 3 friends who i share a group chat with daily and we support each other through all our ups and downs.

    All wonderful people I am very thankful for.


  • I have 5 very beautiful people in my life. My husband, sisters, and best friends. Gosh they are good at life. Got me thinking I hope I can be a positive influence in their life too


  • I also have positve people in my life,you do not need negative people around,there’s no point!


  • The five closest people to me accept me for who I am and that’s why I love them. I’ve pretty much removed all negative people from my life and have absolutely no regrets. Life really is too short to put up with negative/demanding people.


  • Absolutely true. And when there are people having a negative influence in your life, just stay away from them! For your own health!


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