Whether you have curly hair or have a child with curly hair, there are a few simple tricks that can mean the difference between looking like Shirley Temple or a character from Fraggle Rock.

I spent the best part of my early childhood looking like the latter.

My mum used to brush my hair every single day and in every school class photo all you can see is a big blonde mass of frizz. My hair alone took up an entire row.

It wasn’t until I met my friend Verity, aged 12, that I learnt how to manage my hair. Something so simple changed how I felt about my hair completely.

Lately, a few people have asked me how I manage my hair, so it dawned on me that I should share the love.

Below are a few tips which will help end your frizz:

1) Never ever ever brush your hair when it is dry.
I find a wide tooth comb is the best thing to use.

2) Leave your conditioner in.
You can buy leave-in conditioner but I have always just used my everyday one. I only use natural hair care products with no nasties in them so it’s never done me or my hair any harm.

3) If you are looking after a toddler’s hair then I wouldn’t advise leaving the conditioner in.
To look after my son’s curls I use a nasties free shampoo and conditioner 2-3 times per week and then once a week will just comb conditioner through the ends (any product I use in our household is nasty chemical and cruelty free) and rinse.

4) Use a serum or oil for really defined curls.
I don’t use any on my toddler’s hair, I probably won’t until he is quite a bit bigger. For now I just use a detangling spray for the mornings when it’s a bit of a bird’s nest.

5) Never towel dry vigorously.
Make sure you let your hairdresser know not to dry vigorously. This will cause frizz. I just wrap my hair in a towel for 5 mins and then let it dry naturally. I was forever being told by my nan that I would catch my cold if I went out with wet hair but I never did.

6) Layers are your hair’s best friend.
I find that short layers (especially on top) take the weight out of the hair and improve the curls. If someone comes within a metre of you with the thinning scissors, RUN!!!

7) Whenever you go to the beach take a small spray bottle filled with half conditioner / half water.
This will prevent your hair from drying out. I find this coupled with salt water make my curls amazing! (this one is a little bit harder to keep up with now I have an active toddler with me but it’s still a handy tip).

8) Don’t wash your hair every day as this drys it out

Remember moisture is the key to beautiful locks. I wash mine once or twice a week however, I do often wet it and just put conditioner in between those times.

Do you have curly hair and any tricks you would like to share?

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  • My second daughter had the most beautifuls ringlets as a littleone. Now here hair is super straight….go figure


  • Embrace your curls! Curly hair is beautiful. Clean curls are lovely. Let them boing as far as they want I say!


  • I would never have realised what needed to be done for curly hair if I didn’t read this. I thought it was just like straight hair, wash condition comb.


  • Until I was a bit over l y.o. I have very little but fine hair which as it grew was very wavy – not curly as such. Later I developed chronic tonsilitis. Due to the severity of it I had to have antibiotics. Often I had an ear infection either not long before the tonsilitis too. The wax would drain out onto my pillow and I would wake up screaming (not just crying) according to my parents and one of my Aunties. She often visited once a week or fortnight. My hair gradually straightened to just soft waves. The hairdresser showed Mum how to gently comb the waves in and clip them until my hair was dry provided she didn’t let it grow too long.


  • Thanks for these great tips


  • Let curly hair be as it is. The locks will drop as the hair grows. A lot of people love curly hair yet kids can be fussy, explaining to your kids curly hair is special.


  • Great tips as I have curly hair and have been using elevive conditioning as it is helping it stay soft and curls defined and I used Taft strong hold mouse too so it doesn’t look buffyy


  • These are great tips! My son had beautiful blonde curly hair that I did allow to grow but now that he is older he likes it cut short so no curls now.


  • Great tips. My daughter has very curly hair.


  • These are some great tips. I think my Mum couldn’t have used these tips when I was little. Hard to believe when I was a toddler I had very tight curls and now my hair just has a bit of a wave to it.


  • Ultra Organics chamomile conditioner- leave in and then squish in and leave in ultra organics clear henna wax! My 2 best friends! I use the henna mixed with coconut oil everyday with my own version of curly girl and I use it with my 3 year son whom I wash his hair once or twice a week with no nasties! His curls are gorgeous. Embrace what u have and make the most of it!


  • Thanks for the tips, I have thick wavy hair and often too look like a character from Fraggle Rock.


  • Have to admit I am still wondering what trick Verity taught her.
    She does seem to reply on the odd one or two or more products though.


  • Some good tips. The writer of this article states she washes the hair of her toddler with nasties free shampoo and conditioner 2-3 times per week. Personally I wouldn’t think to wash the hair of my toddler that often. With one of my foster kids I did coconut oil in the hair. We never cut in layers, as same length gives more possibilities to do things with the hair (tails, buns, plats, braids).


  • This article has raised issues I had never even been aware of for those people with curly hair. It seems way more demanding then I first thought


  • We us e a fantastic Garnier detangling spray which really helps.


  • Layers for sure with curly hair!


  • I have very wavy hair but have to follow these rules. I try to follow it r my curly haired toddler but Dad with a family of dead straight hair doesn’t understand and keeps telling me to brush it. Maybe one day he’ll realise doing it his way means frizz and messy hair


  • Thanks for the helpful suggestions. I have wavy hair that drives me nuts.


  • Is there ways to control curly hair? I look at sone people with curly hair and actually think how cool it would be to just jump out of bed and not worry about brushing your hair. Most of them look like they don’t brush


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